In our household, mornings often start with my teenage daughter, who was adopted from Haiti, diving into the latest news on her phone before asking if we can go driving. Her passion for both current events and driving has become a defining part of her daily routine.
However, yesterday was different. After a cozy moment spent together, she suddenly brought up the news: “Mom, did you hear about the incident involving Alton Sterling?” I nodded and offered to discuss it, but when her younger brother entered the room, she fell silent, clearly not wanting to share this weighty topic with him.
This dilemma haunts me every time a Black individual is killed by police or targeted by racism, especially when political figures spread harmful narratives about immigrants and minorities. I grapple with whether I should shield her from these harsh realities or encourage her to confront them. Despite her youth, she recognizes the importance of discussing these issues openly. It’s a shared experience that we must navigate together, ensuring that her white family stands in solidarity with her and her brother, reminding them of the rules they must follow if stopped by law enforcement.
This is a somber truth that I wish more white parents would comprehend, especially when they question the concept of white privilege. It creates an invisible barrier between my daughter and her white peers, a burden that weighs heavily on the promise of their friendships.
Later that day, while relaxing with her dog, she browsed for a new phone case. She was drawn to one featuring a Black power fist, as well as another showcasing a regal Black woman adorned with a crown. Yet, she didn’t ask to go driving that day.
The next morning, she emerged without her usual news update. “Maybe hold off on reading it for now,” I suggested gently. “Take some time to gather your thoughts and talk to me.” I hesitated, torn between wanting to protect her and knowing that she is on the verge of getting her driver’s license—an event that should be filled with joy but is shadowed by the fear of encounters with police.
I reflected on the reality she faces: wondering if she would be stopped and whether she could become another victim like Alton or Philando Castile, whose name I would eventually mention. I would tell her about Philando, a straight-A student who was shot while reaching for his ID during a traffic stop, a horrifying experience made worse by the presence of his girlfriend’s four-year-old daughter in the backseat.
As I prepared for our conversation later that day, I took a moment to order her the phone case with the Black princess, along with the one featuring the power fist. Though it may seem trivial, it’s a small gesture I can offer before breaking the more painful news. She will inevitably think about Philando’s family and draw parallels to her own. I suspect she won’t ask to drive today either.
In summary, navigating the complexities of race and injustice in discussions with my Black teen is a delicate balance. As a white parent, I strive to create a supportive environment that acknowledges the realities of her experience while also fostering open communication about difficult subjects.
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