In the realm of motherhood, the term “no” often becomes our default response. We frequently find ourselves denying requests: “No, you can’t have another snack.” “No, the car keys are off-limits tonight.” “No, I won’t exit this closet to confront your brother about taking your ‘Harry Potter’ book.” We craft excuses to remain snug in our pajamas during chilly winter days and decline committee tasks because, frankly, who has the time to organize a school carnival? Our partners hear “no” more often than they’d prefer, often due to our exhaustion or feelings of inadequacy about our appearances. We also sidestep exercise routines, attributing our inactivity to our children’s demanding schedules.
As protective mothers, we say “no” to ensure our children’s safety, discourage risky play, and avoid associations with families we disapprove of. For introverts, like myself, we also decline social invitations from well-meaning parents; why engage unless absolutely necessary? The word “no” permeates our daily vocabulary, leading to a reputation for being the perennial naysayers in our families.
But what if we shifted the balance? What if we said “yes” to ourselves even half the time? After becoming a mother, I poured every ounce of energy into ensuring that my family made it through each day intact. I exhausted myself with midnight feedings, engaging in endless play sessions, and coaxing picky eaters. My social life dwindled to sporadic gatherings, and I often went months without wearing makeup or putting on clothes that didn’t scream “I’m about to exercise” (which I rarely did).
One day, while passing a mirror, I was confronted with a reflection that shocked me. I didn’t recognize the haggard woman staring back; she had dark circles, worry lines, and an unflattering physique. My body had transformed drastically, and it was as if I had been saying a resounding “NOPE” to my own well-being.
In that moment of realization, I recognized the need to prioritize “yes” in my life. I redefined my boundaries: “No, I won’t get up with the kids on Saturday morning because I’m saying yes to a run,” or “No, I can’t manage bath time tonight because I’m attending a spin class.” While “no” remained part of my vocabulary, I shifted it away from personal matters. This simple change helped me lose 30 pounds of baby weight and rekindle my self-worth.
Women, especially mothers, often feel compelled to be the caretakers and problem solvers in their families. We juggle multiple responsibilities and often have little time to reflect on our aspirations or consider new opportunities. Yet, if we could reframe our “no” responses, we might discover a more fulfilling existence.
A friend of mine recently confided that she had applied for a new position, despite initial doubts about managing her family’s needs. Ultimately, she chose to embrace the challenge and is now thrilled with her decision. This choice even led to a much-needed shopping spree for new clothes!
Saying “yes” to ourselves doesn’t mean neglecting our responsibilities as mothers or unfairly burdening our partners. It’s a shift in mindset—an acknowledgment that we deserve to pursue our goals and dreams. Even if that dream is to enjoy a quiet cup of coffee alone for half an hour, embracing the “yes” mindset is essential.
As I continue to practice saying yes, I will always maintain a firm “no” when it comes to Justin Bieber. Because that’s a solid no.
In conclusion, prioritizing self-affirmation can lead to a transformative change in our lives as mothers, allowing us to embrace our needs and aspirations without guilt.
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