Insights on Parenting with Anxiety
I have experienced anxiety intermittently since childhood, beginning around the age of 8. While I may not always exhibit signs of anxiety, those who know me well are aware of my struggle. I can face overwhelming anxiety attacks, and despite being aware of my triggers, I can never predict when these episodes will strike.
For instance, just yesterday, I enjoyed a period of anxiety-free living. I went about my day, engaging in household tasks, work, and caring for my children. However, after a restless night with my toddler and the onset of my period, I found myself feeling unwell. To top it all off, my third grader returned home complaining of a headache.
He picked at his dinner before retreating to his bed—a behavior unusual for him. My heart began to race. As the day’s accumulated stress reached a tipping point, irrational thoughts overwhelmed me. I feared my son was gravely ill, perhaps with a rare virus or even a brain tumor. The thoughts spiraled to a catastrophic conclusion, and despite recognizing their absurdity, I felt powerless to stop them. My body reacted uncontrollably: my heart raced, my legs felt weak, and my mind became a chaotic storm.
Then I began to fret about my anxiety itself. I wondered if my children sensed my distress. The last thing I want is for them to inherit my anxiety. It breaks my heart to think of either of my children facing such challenges.
As I sat with my son, offering him sips of water and trying to soothe him, I was overwhelmed with stress hormones and a sense of helplessness. I aspired to be a calming presence for my son, who was already feeling unwell, yet I struggled to fulfill that role.
When anxiety grips me, I find it difficult to be the mother I want to be. I become distant, trapped in my thoughts, reverting to a child-like state of vulnerability. In those moments, self-loathing creeps in. I yearn for relief but often must endure anxiety’s grip for what feels like an eternity. It can dissipate within minutes or linger for weeks, even after extended periods of tranquility. I know anxiety is always lurking, ready to invade my life again.
While I don’t have perfect remedies, I’ve learned that medication hasn’t been effective for me, though it helps others. I find daily meditation and exercise beneficial. Recognizing the onset of an anxiety attack allows me to employ mindfulness techniques, but at times, the anxiety overwhelms me regardless.
One strategy I’ve recently adopted is openly communicating my feelings to my children. I might say, “I’m feeling anxious right now. I think I need to sit down for a moment.” Initially, I worried that sharing my anxiety would burden them, but I realized they likely sensed my distress anyway. By voicing my feelings, I found that my children responded with kindness, offering reassurance and support. Just expressing my anxiety often brings a sense of relief.
I understand my anxiety is not my children’s responsibility, and I strive to shield them from it. Caring for myself, seeking help when necessary, and maintaining self-awareness are all part of my approach. Despite my anxiety, I believe I am a good mother. However, I wish my predisposition to anxiety did not overshadow my experiences with my children.
Ultimately, I hope my struggles with anxiety foster greater empathy for the intense emotions my kids may face. If either of them were to develop anxiety, I would recognize it and seek the assistance they need, nurturing them through their challenges.
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In summary, parenting while managing anxiety can complicate the experience, but open communication with children and self-care can help foster a supportive environment for both parent and child.
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