Dear Alex,
First and foremost, I want to express my gratitude for the incredible father you are and the wonderful partner you have been to me. Your commitment to parenting and sharing household responsibilities is evident—after all, you’ve been handling the laundry for several years now! Your respect and kindness towards me shine through in every interaction, and I admire the way you strive to be a positive role model for our boys.
However, there is an issue that has been weighing on my mind, and I can no longer stand by without addressing it.
Please consider refraining from using “girl” as a disparaging term.
I understand that your coaching background influences your perspective. You embody a standard of toughness, resilience, and a “walk it off” mentality, which you hope to instill in our sons. Yet, when they express emotions or discomfort, your instinctive response is often to say, “quit being a girl.”
When our boys shed tears over minor frustrations, you urge them to “stop being a girl.” If they sulk when things don’t go their way, you repeat the phrase. Even when they experience a small injury, your reaction is the same. This language implies that being a girl equates to weakness, that girls cry over trivial matters, and that showing emotion is something to be ashamed of.
What you might not realize is that strength is not defined by gender. I am a woman who has given birth to our four children, and I assure you, I am far from weak. I have navigated challenging times with unwavering love and have endured three C-section surgeries while caring for our newborns the very next day. My ability to withstand pain and emotional turmoil is not diminished by my gender.
I want our sons to understand that experiencing hurt, disappointment, or heartache is part of life. I want them to feel safe to approach us, tears in their eyes, without the fear of hearing derogatory comments like “quit being a girl.” Instead, I hope they will find support and understanding from us during their vulnerable moments.
It’s vital for them to learn that overcoming adversity will shape them into empathetic leaders. I want them to recognize that showing emotion, whether it be through tears or expressions of sensitivity, is a fundamental human experience, not just a “girl” thing. Sometimes, what you perceive as “being a girl” simply indicates that they care deeply.
Thank you for considering my perspective, and for being the selfless, strong, and tender-hearted partner that you are.
With love,
Your devoted and sometimes “girly” wife
In Conclusion
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Keyphrase: A request to reconsider the use of ‘girl’ as an insult
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