In the realm of extended breastfeeding, I’ve encountered a myriad of opinions. Remarks such as: “You should stop nursing when he can ask for it,” “It becomes more beneficial for the mother than the child after a certain age,” or “He won’t become independent” are just the tip of the iceberg. The critique can be harsher, with comments like “It’s inappropriate” or “It’s disgusting.”
However, this discussion isn’t about countering those views. I lack the desire to engage in debate. Instead, I wish to share my experience with my son—who is now 2.25 years old—and the significance of nursing in our lives.
Recently, I noticed a shift; my son hadn’t nursed as frequently as usual. When he finally latched on, my other breast leaked through my shirt, reminiscent of the early days of our journey. My body has transformed since those newborn days—no longer the leaky, milky mess I once was. My breasts have returned to a softer state, allowing me to sleep comfortably on my stomach. I no longer wear nursing bras, reclaiming my body more each day.
Our nursing sessions have also evolved. Sometimes he simply wants to cuddle in the middle of the night, while other times he opts for an afternoon snack instead of our usual nursing session. Although it may take a while before he fully weans, I can see the gradual changes taking place.
These moments shared while nursing are precious to me, and I find myself feeling a blend of gratitude and sadness as they start to diminish. Here are the reasons I continue breastfeeding:
- I nurse him because his big hazel eyes meet mine during those quiet, rainy afternoons.
- I nurse him because at 2 years old, he curls his soft body into my lap and playfully kicks his legs.
- I nurse him because I also nursed his older brother, and I miss those moments of closeness as he grows more independent.
- I nurse him because it reminds me of watching my mother nurse my sister, creating an atmosphere of tranquility.
- I nurse him because it offers me a chance to pause and enjoy stillness.
- I nurse him because when he sweetly asks for “milkies,” it brings a smile to my face.
- I nurse him because the oxytocin released during these moments fills me with joy.
- I nurse him because it allows us to linger together on weekend mornings and after his naps.
- I nurse him because it’s a simple solution to help him sleep or prevent a tantrum.
- I nurse him because it’s a mutual desire; I want to nurse, and he wants to nurse.
- I nurse him with the understanding that this phase is fleeting, and his need for nursing will eventually fade.
Admittedly, not every moment spent nursing is enjoyable. For instance, during the night when he pulls on my lips and eyelids, keeping me awake, I sometimes wish for a break. Yet, when he finally drifts off to sleep, and I can smell his unique scent, it’s just the two of us sharing a peaceful moment in the cool of the night.
I don’t believe every parent needs to breastfeed their toddler or child. Yet, I recognize that it is a natural part of early development, and the act of suckling fulfills a biological need that begins with nursing. While breastfeeding beyond a certain age may not align with everyone’s vision of parenting, that’s perfectly acceptable.
What feels right for my son and me is what matters, and there are many other mothers and children who share this experience. Thus, we continue to nurse.
In summary, my journey of nursing my toddler is filled with personal meaning, connection, and a recognition of the transitory nature of this phase in our lives.
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