Dear Cousin,
I received the delightful news that you’re expecting a baby girl, and I can hardly contain my excitement. Your mother, my aunt, was overjoyed, and I immediately thought back to our childhood days spent on the beach. I can picture us, around three and four years old, lying on the sand with our heads resting on our hands, your golden locks contrasting with my dark hair. Our smiles reflected pure happiness as we played together.
Time has flown by since those carefree days, and though we’ve grown up in different places—me in a rural area and you in a bustling suburb—our bond remains special. Even though we may not have seen each other often, I still think of us as those little girls. Now, as you embark on the profound journey of motherhood, I feel a protective instinct as your older cousin. Here are some thoughts I wish I had received when I was expecting:
- Savor These Final Months of Freedom
There will be moments of solitude again, but they won’t feel quite the same. Once your little one arrives, the quiet moments might seem overwhelming, and your baby will always be in your thoughts. So, indulge in movies, dive into books, and enjoy long baths while you can. These experiences will change once your baby is here. - Prioritize Time with Your Partner Before the Baby Arrives
While the arrival of our first child felt like a blessing, I missed my husband—despite him being right there beside me. Transitioning from a couple to a family of three can be challenging. Open communication is key, and spending quality time together now will ease this transition. - Avoid Overloading on Parenting Literature
During the latter part of my first pregnancy, I immersed myself in parenting books, causing my mind to spin from all the information. My doctor even advised me to take a break from reading. While literature can be helpful, trust your instincts and remember that you’ll find what works best for you and your baby. - Create a Birth Plan, But Stay Adaptable
It’s essential to know how you’d like your birthing experience to unfold. However, flexibility is crucial. Sometimes circumstances change, and sticking too rigidly to a plan can lead to feelings of inadequacy if things take an unexpected turn. - Prepare a Personal Hospital Bag
Everyone advises packing a bag for the hospital, but I focused so much on baby essentials that I neglected my own needs. Don’t forget warm socks, favorite snacks, comfy pajamas, and personal hygiene items. Remember, it’s okay to wear maternity clothing for a while as your body adjusts. - Trust Yourself to Find Your Own Path
Many people will offer advice, but the reality is that you will carve your own way. What worked for others may not suit you and your baby. Just know that I’m here for you, ready to support you as you navigate this journey.
I am thrilled for you to embrace motherhood, and I look forward to seeing our daughters play together. I still cherish that beach photo and would love to recreate it with our little girls. With your baby and my youngest only two years apart, it feels like the perfect time. Until that day comes, I wish you all the luck in the world and cannot wait to meet your precious child.
Warmly,
Emily