As I reflect on my daily interactions, I often find myself thinking, “How many times have I repeated this?” It’s a frustrating realization, especially when I consider the countless times I’ve asked my child the same thing, hoping for a different outcome. Albert Einstein famously described insanity as doing the same thing repeatedly but expecting different results. Yet, here I am, facing the same challenges with my toddler day after day without any changes.
Parenting a toddler often feels like a survival game, and to make it through, I’ve had to prioritize my battles. Here are five conflicts I’m opting not to engage in:
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“Don’t climb up the slide.”
The playground is a familiar battlefield. I invariably find myself saying, “Don’t climb the slide,” only to be met with, “Why?” The truth is, playgrounds are designed for fun. If my toddler wants to scramble up the slide while taking turns with others, so be it. Just don’t attempt to scale the slide when we’re in the middle of a game of Chutes and Ladders. -
“Don’t color on your hands.”
Initially, I was thrilled when my daughter picked up a crayon, but that excitement faded fast when she began decorating everything except paper. After scrubbing ink from her hands for the umpteenth time before my coffee was even finished, I surrendered. If she wishes to express her creativity with her hands as her canvas, why not? We’ll categorize this as artistic flair. -
“Sit down and eat.”
Food is one of my greatest joys. I cherish sitting down to enjoy a meal, yet my toddler finds this concept utterly torturous. I’ve stopped trying to solve this mystery. If she wants to take a bite and then dash around the house, so be it. I’ll just be here at the toddler table, sneaking bites of her dessert. -
“Don’t make a mess.”
There’s an inexplicable thrill that comes with scattering toys everywhere. Every time my daughter retrieves a single toy from her chest, it looks as if a tornado has swept through our living room. Explaining that she doesn’t need to dump everything out for just one toy is futile, much like telling a teenager they don’t need to empty their closet to find an outfit. You win this round, kiddo. At least the clutter will mask my lack of vacuuming. -
“That’s not what __________ is for.”
If we want to be technical, the couch isn’t meant for walking, bubbles aren’t intended for emptying in the tub, and stuffed animals shouldn’t be tossed around. However, toddlerhood is all about exploration and testing boundaries. If my daughter wishes to play with her toys in unorthodox ways, who am I to interfere? At least she’s enjoying herself, and we can both avoid the conversation about why my bras shouldn’t be worn as hats for the 489th time.
In conclusion, as parents, we often face repetitive challenges. Rather than engaging in endless battles, it’s sometimes more beneficial to pick our fights wisely and allow our toddlers the space to explore their world creatively. For more insights on parenting and fertility, check out this page on at-home insemination kits and additional resources on pregnancy, such as this excellent article on IVF.
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