When it comes to childbirth, I’ve had the experience of bringing forth four children, which grants me a certain level of credibility in this conversation. Lately, I’ve been on a mission to promote the idea of #dontjudge, and frankly, we need much more of it. The crux of my argument is simple: Don’t evaluate someone else’s reproductive journey based on your own experiences.
This is a mantra worth adopting. Or, in more familiar terms, don’t pass judgment until you’ve truly understood someone else’s circumstances. The reality is that each labor experience is unique.
As my friends embark on their own journeys of delivering new lives, I feel a protective instinct toward their feelings and bodies—bodies that deserve privacy and respect. There seems to be a prevalent notion that there is a universal “ideal” way to give birth.
Allow me a moment to stand atop my soapbox: These women have nurtured a baby within them, and then faced the challenge of bringing that baby into the world. We should be celebrating their strength with high-fives, not sharing unsolicited opinions.
Exhibit A: Weight Gain
Let’s talk about weight gain during pregnancy, a topic best left untouched. Some women gain the “perfect” amount of weight, according to pregnancy literature, and that is commendable. However, these individuals should not serve as the standard against which all mothers are measured—like unicorns or Olympic champions. Others may find themselves gaining weight due to circumstances beyond their control, such as genetics or morning sickness. This is not a subject for judgment or unsolicited advice. And then there’s the last group, who might feel like they’ve gained the title of heavyweight champion during their pregnancy. To all variations of weight gain, I salute you.
Exhibit B: Birth Method
Here, once again, we circle back to the core message: Don’t assess another woman’s experience—be it vaginal delivery, C-section, or otherwise—based on your own. The reality is that no two births are alike. Even within my own four experiences, each one was distinct and deserves its own narrative.
Regarding C-sections, while they may sometimes be seen as overused, they can be lifesaving. Let’s acknowledge the incredible strength of women who endure lengthy labors that lead to surgical delivery or those who face complications that make natural birth impossible. They deserve our respect and admiration.
So, let’s empower women to embrace their own stories, whatever they may entail. After all, every birth narrative is uniquely beautiful.
Exhibit C: Birth Location—Home, Hospital, or Birth Center
One of my favorite comedians, Jake Filmore, humorously reflects on how his wife chose home births, leading some to joke about their decision by claiming they wanted their baby to survive. It’s crucial to recognize that every woman should have the autonomy to choose where she feels safest and most comfortable during labor. Personally, I appreciate the hospital experience, akin to checking into a cozy hotel, while a friend of mine, Sarah, prefers to avoid crowded medical environments. If you aren’t the one in labor, perhaps it’s best to hold your comments.
Moreover, we mustn’t forget those who choose not to have children, those who can’t conceive biologically, and those battling postpartum challenges. Parents’ ages, surrogate journeys, and adoptive pathways are all deeply personal choices that deserve respect and understanding.
Ladies, let’s unite in solidarity and affirm one another’s experiences as valid and valuable. Just remember: Don’t judge another’s journey.
In summary, every person’s reproductive experience is uniquely theirs, and it’s vital to foster a supportive environment that honors each story without judgment.
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