To my beloved Jewish children,
As the Christmas season approaches, I recognize that it can be a bewildering period for us. The world around us is saturated with festive decorations—vibrant reds and greens, twinkling lights, and cheerful songs heralding the arrival of Santa Claus. I wouldn’t be surprised if you asked about the holiday tree soon; it’s hard to ignore the festive spirit that envelops us, especially with Christmas trees being tied to car roofs and Christmas lights illuminating our neighbors’ homes.
I must confess, I felt a pang of concern the other day when you inquired about putting up a Christmas tree. It wasn’t just about the tree itself that troubled me; it was the thought of explaining why we don’t partake in such traditions. You won’t find an Elf on the Shelf in our home, nor will you leave cookies for Santa, as he won’t be descending our chimney. Christmas is a reality that exists around us, but it won’t be a part of our cherished practices.
Every year, I encounter questions about whether we will “celebrate” Christmas, given its prominence in our society. Santa, after all, is the grand finale of the Thanksgiving Day parade in New York City. Many well-meaning people have suggested we adopt a Hanukkah bush or adorn our home with blue and white lights to embrace the season. Although these suggestions come from a good place, they imply that we’re somehow denying you of joyous traditions.
I sincerely hope you know that just because we don’t celebrate Christmas doesn’t mean you are missing out on the warmth of the season. As Jews, we have our own rich traditions during this time. We will create memories around the menorah, spin dreidels, and savor delicious latkes. We will gather with family and friends, enjoy delightful meals, and share in our own kind of merriment. Remember, we are fortunate to enjoy the peace and safety that allows joy to flourish, unlike many who may not have that privilege.
Rest assured, you will still receive gifts just like your friends who celebrate Christmas.
In this season, as the world around you glimmers with Christmas cheer, I hope you understand that the essence of any holiday lies not in the traditions themselves but in the values they embody. Whether it’s Christmas, Hanukkah, or any other holiday, the core principles remain the same: love, kindness, compassion, appreciation, and the importance of family. These are the sentiments that truly matter, transcending the physical symbols we might see.
My dear ones, as you navigate the confusion of Christmastime, remember that this season is precious not for the decorations or the festivities but for the opportunities it offers to connect with our values. You share more in common with your friends who celebrate Christmas than you might realize. And let’s not forget, for us, Christmas can still be a day of enjoying movies and indulging in Chinese food, alongside many other Jewish families across the country.
Wishing you a joyful Hanukkah, my sweet boys. Always remember how much I love you.
With all my love,
Mommy