As our parents navigate health challenges, particularly if we live far away, we often find ourselves engaged in concerning conversations. For instance, a typical exchange might go like this:
“How did your doctor’s appointment go?”
“It went OK, I think,” replies the parent.
“Were there any answers? Did the doctor pinpoint the issue?”
“I’m unsure. They plan to conduct more tests.”
“And what about the previous tests? Any results?”
“Not yet.”
“Why is that? Are the results not ready?”
“I don’t know. The woman didn’t explain well.”
“What woman? The doctor or someone else?”
“Maybe a PA?”
“What was her name?”
“Something like Barilla or Barillo. A pasta brand.”
“So, what’s next?”
“I have no idea.”
Reassuring, right? Many of us have gone through similar dialogues with our family members, be it parents or grandparents. Living a day’s drive away, such conversations often leave me feeling helpless and emotional. Despite my efforts to assist through calls and letters, HIPAA regulations frequently prevent me from obtaining necessary information. Consequently, my family members are left to await their next appointments alone, uncertain about their health status.
My parents are at the forefront of the baby boomer generation, and I find myself in the so-called “sandwich generation,” where we juggle caring for young children while also worrying about our aging parents. According to Ai-jen Poo in her insightful book The Age of Dignity, the nation is on the brink of an eldercare crisis. As baby boomers age, a substantial number of elderly individuals will require varying levels of assistance—ranging from simple tasks like cooking and cleaning to more intensive care needs.
A critical issue is the current structure of our healthcare system. While doctors can prescribe a limited number of home visits, there is a lack of support for seniors needing ongoing assistance. For instance, a mother who wishes to remain at home but requires daily check-ins for bathing, meals, and medication management often finds no help available.
Poo proposes several solutions already implemented in other countries. For example, in Japan, every individual aged 65 and over can apply for benefits and receive an assessment to qualify for different levels of care. This approach acknowledges that age-related decline is often a prolonged journey requiring more than a handful of visits from a home health aide.
In the United States, some communities are also developing innovative solutions to the aging-in-place dilemma. A recent article from the Brookings Institution highlighted the concept of “villages”—networks designed to assist seniors while allowing them to remain in their own homes. These nonprofit organizations are managed by members who pay dues, providing access to transportation, social events, discounted medical services, and volunteer assistance for various needs, such as grocery shopping or setting up technology. While these villages are not widespread, they can be found predominantly in urban and suburban areas, with several available in locations like Washington, D.C. For those interested, the Village to Village network offers further information.
It is evident that a significant overhaul is necessary for how we support our oldest citizens, enabling them to age at home with dignity while ensuring that eldercare workers receive fair compensation. In the interim, piecemeal solutions like the “medical notetaker” service offered by the Village to Village network may prove beneficial. I plan to explore this option for my own parents.
In conclusion, as we confront the challenges of caring for aging parents from a distance, it is vital to explore available resources and advocate for systemic changes to support our elders—ensuring they can live independently and comfortably in their own homes.
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