To my friends without children,
It’s been a while since we last connected—life has a way of getting busy with work and other commitments—but I couldn’t help but notice your recent Instagram photo. You looked stunning, dressed elegantly, enjoying a delightful meal, and I could see the joy radiating from both you and your partner. Your caption, “#Datenight!” was a sweet reminder of the excitement that comes with such occasions.
What I want to share with you is a little insight I gained after stepping into motherhood: your life before kids is essentially a continuous series of date nights. You might believe that a date requires a fancy restaurant or a special outfit, but what really matters is the one-on-one time spent with your partner. Before parenthood, it’s easy to take this for granted. An impromptu pizza outing? That’s a date! Stopping for frozen yogurt after dinner? That’s another date! Hiking, catching a movie, or even a leisurely Sunday drive—these are all opportunities to connect.
As a parent, especially one with a little one who prefers not to be left with a sitter, I often find myself envious of your freedom to enjoy regular date nights. My husband and I now plan our outings months in advance, searching for a sitter, budgeting for the night, and hoping our baby stays healthy. When we finally manage to escape, it’s often a rushed affair, with us constantly checking our phones and racing home to avoid any mishaps.
The effort it takes to have a simple dinner out can feel overwhelming and infrequent. As a result, I’ve learned to see the joy in the smaller moments. Watching Netflix in sweatpants while holding hands? That’s a date! Bumping into each other at the grocery store while shopping for essentials? Also a date! Even grabbing meatballs at Ikea while our child sleeps in the stroller—if I can face my husband while we share that moment, I’ll definitely call it a date.
I know you’ve heard it all before about the challenges of parenting and how it alters your life. Yes, having children is demanding and exhausting, and the freedom you once had shifts dramatically. While I wouldn’t trade my child for anything, I still occasionally long for more frequent opportunities to connect with my husband.
So, my dear friends without children, relish those date nights—or perhaps I should say, date lives! They are a precious time that will shift once you embark on the journey of parenthood.
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In summary, while life changes dramatically with children, it’s important to cherish the moments you have now. Embrace your date nights, as they are not just special occasions but the foundation of your relationship.
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