As I drove home from my daughter’s first day of preschool, I felt a surge of emotions wash over me, a familiar feeling since becoming a mom. It was almost enough to make me want to flip off the world—both hands up in defiance.
I should have anticipated the chaos that awaited me. We had been hyping up preschool all summer long, and the night before her big day, she tossed and turned, unable to sleep. The next morning, she woke up way too early, clutching her stomach, which even a pink, berry-flavored Tums couldn’t fix.
Drop-off was a breeze. But when the day ended, I stood outside the school, baby on my hip, scanning the crowd for my daughter. Chloe emerged through the double doors, looking small and overwhelmed. Her eyes, shadowed with fatigue, squinted against the sun, searching for me while I waved and called her name. When she finally spotted the school bus, her expression shifted from confusion to relief.
“Chloe!” I shouted again.
But then, I noticed the card in her hand, featuring a cartoon bus with the name “Chloe R. #609” scrawled in black marker. I had no clue who Chloe R. was or if my Chloe even boarded the right bus. All I knew was my little girl was screaming, “I don’t want to go with you! I’m taking the bus!”
I managed a smile at the other parents, silently communicating, “Kids, right? Don’t you just love it when they act like you’re the enemy?” Except, as I glanced around, all the other kids were joyfully running to their moms, arms wide open and faces beaming. I was left standing there, alone in my turmoil.
Taking a deep breath, I reminded myself not to take it personally. “I understand that you’re upset about the bus mix-up. But we’re going home now.”
“No! I want to take the bus!” she wailed.
“I know, sweetie.” I reached out to comfort her, but she swatted my hand away.
It’s not personal, I told myself. I’ve been repeating this mantra all summer since my once-sweet 3½-year-old began to express her sass. She was acting out, tired and overstimulated, and, of course, she was happy to see me.
“But I wanted Daddy to pick me up! I hate you!”
Those words stung, and I felt a surge of embarrassment. I was tempted to shout back, “I hate you too!” but I held my tongue, not wanting her to know she’d struck a nerve.
By the time she settled down enough to strap herself into the bike trailer, we were the last ones outside the school. As we pedaled home, she declared, “I don’t like you because you don’t do enough favors for me.”
Favors? Seriously?
You lived inside of me for almost a year. I endured 30 hours of labor for you. I’ve lost countless nights of sleep for you. I sacrificed my professional life for you. I am your teacher, your chef, your chauffeur, your personal shopper, your hairstylist, and your housekeeper. I am your mother, and my love for you runs deeper than you can imagine. So what specific favors have I overlooked?
At the next red light, I leaned over, adopting my most patient voice, “What kind of favors do you need from me, honey?”
“Don’t talk to me!” she shot back, nestled beneath her fuchsia helmet.
I love my daughter, truly. But motherhood is challenging in ways I never anticipated. As Chloe begins her educational journey, I’m reminded of a lesson from my sixth-grade science teacher, who told me, “There’s a fine line between love and hate.” Back then, I didn’t understand her wisdom, but now? It resonates deeply.
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Summary:
The author reflects on a turbulent first day of preschool for her daughter, navigating the emotional rollercoaster of motherhood. The experience highlights the complex dynamics between love and frustration, especially during challenging moments like school drop-offs and pickups.
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