I’ve been through this before. The second time around should be seamless, right? I know the path ahead. I’ve survived the sleepless nights with a newborn, the endless cluster feeding sessions, and the countless diaper changes.
I’ve got this.
As my second pregnancy progressed, a wave of tranquility enveloped me. My body was familiar with this dance of pregnancy. Almost immediately, a soft bump began to show as soon as that positive test result appeared. At just 9 weeks along, I looked as pregnant as I did at 20 weeks with my first child. Family members exchanged knowing glances as I attempted to conceal my burgeoning belly beneath loose-fitting tops. My body was already leaking colostrum weeks before delivery—a reminder of what I had been through before. It felt like an old friend returning.
I’ve got this.
My confidence as a mother had significantly grown over the past three years. I was proud of my achievement in breastfeeding for 18 months. I could change diapers in the dark while nursing, half-asleep yet somehow fully capable. I felt like Super Mom in my peanut-butter-stained yoga pants. I had discovered my identity as a mother and found my place. Sure, insecurities lingered—concerns about my new body and evolving relationships—but in the realm of motherhood, I felt empowered.
I’ve got this.
When labor began, I felt in command of my body. I breathed through the contractions and delivered my beautiful daughter naturally in under three hours. She latched on immediately, nursing with enthusiasm. Everything was unfolding as planned. Until it wasn’t.
Just four hours after giving birth, I found myself in a hospital bed surrounded by my family, basking in the soft glow of love and admiration for my newborn. Suddenly, I felt a warm liquid pool beneath me. I told my mom I couldn’t breathe, feeling as though invisible hands were tightening around my throat. In that moment, I saw red—blood, my blood, covering the floor and walls. Then… nothing.
I lost consciousness, pulled from the bathroom, barely breathing and bleeding. Time became irrelevant; I couldn’t tell if minutes or hours had passed. When I awoke, doctors and nurses hovered around me, alongside my husband’s horrified expression and my newborn’s frantic cries. Pain shot through my body, and I realized I was utterly out of control.
I didn’t have this.
A postpartum hemorrhage wasn’t part of my birth plan. I hadn’t anticipated the overwhelming fatigue and weakness during recovery. Standing made me feel nauseous and dizzy. I couldn’t even get to the bathroom, let alone hold my newborn. Blood transfusions, medications, and a sense of trauma accompanied what should have been a beautiful experience. How could the words we use to describe my daughter’s birth be so at odds with each other?
Because of the hemorrhage, my milk supply was delayed. A week passed, and I was still only producing a few milliliters. My sleepy newborn struggled to nurse effectively and quickly fell asleep, leading to a cycle where she lost over a pound from her birth weight. I hadn’t planned on this breastfeeding struggle.
The first days at home dragged on. Juggling care for myself and two children was overwhelming. Between pumping, supplementing, and feedings every two hours, I barely had time to take my iron supplements or prepare a sandwich for my three-year-old.
Nights were even longer. Intrusive thoughts invaded the sleepless hours—frightening, unwanted images of the birth replayed in my mind like a horror movie. I dreaded being alone with my children. Anxiety rattled my core, and doubts about my abilities as a parent crept in, cracking my confidence. A dark fog settled in my mind, making it difficult to connect with my husband or kids.
I weakly smiled at my son’s silly new song, but I felt no joy. I caressed my one-week-old daughter’s tiny head, yet dread filled me at the thought of the next night alone with a crying baby and my racing thoughts. Worst of all, I feared this would be my new reality. I could see no escape from this dark pit, and the anxiety only intensified.
In the weeks before giving birth, I never imagined I wouldn’t enjoy motherhood. But in those early days, I struggled to find the joy. Even when I tried to fake it, it only amplified my guilt and sadness. The simple moments that once filled me with love instead brought anxiety and fear. Reading bedtime stories in my son’s room—something I had done nightly for three years—felt suffocating. I questioned my choice to get pregnant again, wondering if it had been a mistake. My heart ached as I looked down at my tiny baby, who bore a striking resemblance to me. The guilt of that thought was overwhelming.
I found myself weeping, mourning the loss of my former self. My husband, Mark, stepped in to handle our home. He took care of the kids, ensured we were fed, packed preschool snacks, and even encouraged me to take a break with friends. He managed bath time and bedtime, all while holding me when the tears flowed.
He recognized something was wrong and called my doctor. He accompanied me to appointments, whispering that everything would be alright. I wanted to believe him, but my hope felt fragile.
My doctor, compassionate and professional, diagnosed me with postpartum depression and OCD. I hesitated to take medication that might affect my dwindling milk supply. Breastfeeding was my only anchor to feeling normal and connected as a mother, and I clung to it desperately.
After some discussion, I agreed to a low dose of medication that was safe for breastfeeding. Gradually, the fog lifted, and I gained better control over the intrusive thoughts. Best of all, when I laughed at my son’s goofy song, it was a real laugh—a deep, joyful response that felt authentic. The first toothless grins from my two-month-old daughter healed a little piece of my soul.
Those days were among the most frightening and challenging in my life. Though I still feel anxiety creeping in and mourn my birth experience, I strive to learn and grow from it. I now have a greater appreciation for my children and renewed trust in Mark. My journey has ignited a passion to support new mothers and revealed a strength within me I never knew existed.
I’ve got this.
In summary, bringing home a baby can be overwhelming, especially when coupled with the unexpected challenges of postpartum depression. It’s essential to seek help, connect with resources, and lean on loved ones. By sharing experiences, we can foster understanding and support for mothers navigating similar paths.
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