By: Emily Carter
As a mom with five kids and currently expecting my sixth, I often find myself bracing for the ridiculous comments that inevitably come my way when I venture out with my crew. While I’m not yet showing, I can already feel the anxiety building at the thought of the unsolicited remarks waiting for me. It seems that some people believe it’s their duty to add to my stress levels with their thoughtless comments. I know I’m not alone in this; many of my fellow large-family moms share similar experiences. So, if you happen to encounter a frazzled, pregnant woman managing several active children at the store or elsewhere, please refrain from saying the following:
1. “Looks like you’ve got your hands full!”
Yes, thank you for pointing that out! While it might seem harmless, hearing this multiple times a day gets old quickly. It’s something we encounter almost every time we’re out, even when we have just a few kids with us.
2. “Don’t you know how that happens?”
Actually, no, we’re completely baffled! It’s 2023, and we’re educated women, so perhaps you could enlighten us? But please, do make sure that a curious five-year-old is listening, too.
3. “Are you planning to get fixed after this one?”
First off, we’re not broken, and neither are our partners. Our reproductive choices are ours to make, not yours to question. How about this: you keep your personal inquiries to yourself, and we’ll do the same.
4. “Are you trying to overpopulate the planet?”
No, we’re just attempting to balance out the number of not-so-bright individuals. If it helps, our kids might just be the ones supporting you in about 20 years, so maybe a little gratitude is in order?
5. “How do you manage it all?”
Truthfully, we have no clue! If we had a magical formula for staying sane with this many kids, we’d probably be rich authors by now, not trudging through daily chaos. We simply take it one day at a time—and when we’re not pregnant, we enjoy a glass of wine.
So, what can you say to a pregnant mom of many that won’t make her want to roll her eyes? Here are some friendly alternatives:
- “What a lovely family you have!”
- “You look amazing!”
- “How about some chocolate? I’ve got some to share!”
Or, if you prefer, just offer a warm smile. We genuinely appreciate those little moments of kindness, especially since silence is a rare luxury in our lives.
If you’re interested in learning about the road to parenthood, you might find our post on home insemination kits enlightening. Additionally, for those curious about assisted reproduction, this resource on in vitro fertilisation is excellent. And for those exploring self-insemination options, check out Cryobaby for more information.
In summary, navigating comments as a pregnant mom of many can be challenging, but a little kindness and understanding go a long way.
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