I was at the park with my young son when he bent down to say hi to a little girl in a stroller. As she reached out to hold his hand, her mother laughed and said, “Oh, she’s such a flirt!”
If you’re reading this, you might be thinking I’m overreacting to a harmless comment. However, there’s something unsettling about labeling babies as flirty or referring to young children as having boyfriend and girlfriend relationships. It’s particularly strange when someone remarks, “She’s so coy,” simply because a baby looks away after a moment of engagement. The implication is that this baby has some sort of ulterior motive, as if she’s manipulating the situation with her innocent charms.
We already know that societal norms impose gender stereotypes on children from a very young age, and they often respond to these expectations. Comments like “she’s such a flirt” are just the gentler precursors to more severe accusations aimed at teen girls who are described as being sexually provocative.
This might seem trivial, but our culture is shaped by countless seemingly insignificant remarks. I remember when the St. Paul’s rape case gained media attention, a relative of mine said she was relieved I didn’t find myself in a similar situation in high school. While she meant well, her words suggested that the responsibility for avoiding such situations rested entirely on girls, while boys were hardly mentioned. This reflects a broader cultural narrative that positions girls and women as gatekeepers of sexual behavior, implying they’re responsible for any unwanted advances or outcomes.
And while we’re discussing this, it’s equally concerning when adults label young children as “boyfriend and girlfriend.” Sure, they might be too young to grasp the concept, but it’s even more troubling when kids aged three or four are labeled in such a way. I recall adults doing this to me as a child, adding an uncomfortable layer to what was simply a friendship.
I used to find it adorable to think about my son and his little female friends growing up together, but at the end of the day, they’re just kids enjoying each other’s company. No one is flirting; they’re simply playing and having fun.
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In summary, it’s important to rethink how we talk about young children and their interactions. Labeling babies as flirts or suggesting they have romantic interests can contribute to harmful stereotypes that impact their development and societal expectations.
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