As my younger sibling, Tom, and his partner, Sarah, prepare to welcome their second child, I feel it’s my obligation (thanks to my vast array of experiences) to share some crucial insights about navigating fatherhood. Having raised a handful of little ones myself, I’m here to dish out some candid advice about the wild ride ahead.
To you, Tom, and all dads stepping into the world of two kids, here’s a straightforward guide to avoid major missteps:
Beware of the Humming.
If you come home and find Sarah outside gently humming “Amazing Grace,” take it as a sign that she might be at her wits’ end. This serene humming indicates she’s in a bit of a daze, needing a moment of peace. Instead of interrupting her, tiptoe into the chaos of your living room. Grab the crying baby and tackle the mess, which might include everything from diaper disasters to crayon marks on the couch. Understand that those few moments you spend cleaning up reflect her entire day’s challenges.
And when you’re tempted to say, “It’s just two kids,” remember: it can feel like ten! So just grab that mop—there’s a puddle on the floor.
Show Extra Compassion.
Make it a point to shower Sarah with love. Offer plenty of hugs and gentle touches. Avoid mentioning her hair, which may resemble an oil slick, or the fact that she hasn’t showered in what feels like eons. Instead, reassure her that she looks radiant—yes, even amid the chaos. You might have to fib just a little, but it will be worth it.
Don’t Mention Working Out.
Let’s not set unrealistic expectations for a woman who has just brought a new life into the world. The idea of her joining a rigorous Zumba class anytime soon is simply not practical. Instead, if she can muster the energy to dance around the living room while blasting “Thriller,” consider it a win!
Make Dinner (and Clean Up).
While you’re at it, whip up something for both of you. Your postpartum partner might be surviving on snacks like goldfish crackers and string cheese. With all the chaos of toddler tantrums and late-night feedings, meal prep is the last thing on her mind. After cooking, tidy up the kitchen without making it feel like a chore she failed to complete. A couple of crumbs left behind can remind her she’s still needed, and if you’re not feeling bold enough to walk that fine line, just order some Thai food instead.
Hold the Baby.
When Sarah asks you to hold the baby, do not put them back down! It’s important to follow simple instructions; otherwise, you risk being labeled as clueless. Your little one doesn’t need to tweet about needing smarter parents. Hold the baby long enough for Sarah to enjoy a meal without interruptions.
Master the Art of One-Handed Eating.
If you truly want to bond with Sarah, try to eat with one hand. Imagine wrestling a slippery octopus with your left arm while shoving cold lasagna into your mouth with your right. It’s the ultimate test of multitasking!
Never Wake a Sleeping Mom.
If there’s one rule you absolutely must follow, it’s this: do not disturb a sleeping mother! If she’s finally catching some much-needed rest, don’t wake her for trivial matters. Only wake her for emergencies, like a tornado or a kitchen fire. Asking about a missing raincoat? Just don’t.
Let her rest and figure things out on your own. Trust me, it’s safer for you in the long run.
There are countless tips I could share, but it’s probably best for you and your fellow dads to experience some challenges along the way.
Lastly, cherish these moments with your young family. Children grow up quickly, and soon, these exhausting days will be behind you. Soak in the memories for a future chuckle, knowing that one day, your baby will sleep through the night, and your partner will feel like herself again. Just remember to be helpful, and you won’t mess things up too badly—unless you forget to order that octopus.
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Summary:
New dads, embrace the journey of parenthood with compassion and humor. Support your partner through the chaos, lend a hand with chores, and cherish these fleeting moments. Remember, it’s okay to make mistakes—just don’t wake a sleeping mom!
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