On June 1, 2013—just ten days before my second child was due—I decided to confront my long-standing fear of bicycles. After three decades of bumps, bruises, and the embarrassment that came with them, I finally learned to ride a bike.
Growing up in suburban North Jersey during the ’80s, I never experienced the joyous moment of removing training wheels and wobbling down the street while my parents cheered. Instead, I just kept falling. My friends effortlessly cruised to elementary school, while I struggled to maintain my balance. After countless attempts and frustrations, I surrendered, allowing my bike to collect dust in the overgrown backyard.
I resigned myself to a life without biking. Whenever I spotted a group of kids with bikes, I would steer clear, knowing I wouldn’t be able to join them. The arrival of my driver’s license in 1995 offered a temporary escape from the embarrassment, as biking became less common among my peers. I navigated through college and beyond on foot or in a car, successfully avoiding any bike-related situations.
Eventually, I revealed my secret to my wife, Lily. While she understood my struggle, she firmly declared, “It’s time to learn.” In my late twenties, I made another attempt to overcome my childhood humiliation, but fell—again.
Teaching myself on Lily’s bike was a disaster, so I enlisted the help of a cycling enthusiast friend. I thought his experience would help me conquer my balance issues, but I ended up stumbling around empty Philadelphia streets for hours. After a few painful hours, I thanked him with a six-pack of beer, still unable to master what most kids learn with ease. This failure weighed heavily on me, and I avoided biking for years.
Then Lily sent me details about an adult biking class offered by a local cycling organization. “This is it!” I thought. Surrounded by others who shared my fears, I felt a renewed sense of hope. However, after the class, I found myself still struggling to ride. It felt like I was still that kid in North Jersey, left behind while others enjoyed biking.
The funk persisted until Lily suggested I buy a bike to practice on my own. Feeling out of options, I purchased one from a local shop. When I shared my struggle with the owner, he awkwardly made a metaphor that I didn’t quite understand, but I handed over my cash and walked home with my new ride.
I practiced, but progress was slow. Everything changed when my son, Alex, was born in 2009. Learning to ride became more than just about me; it was about being a role model for him. I didn’t want to miss out on teaching him how to ride.
As my daughter’s due date approached, I finally mustered the courage to attend that adult biking class again. Motivation can be a powerful force. With visions of my children in my mind, I was the one wobbling down the street as the instructors cheered me on. At the age of 35, I finally managed to ride without falling.
Now, over two years later, I’m not a biking expert by any means. I still feel a twinge of anxiety when cars pass too closely or when I’m stuck behind tourists on Segways. Nevertheless, I can ride. This summer, I took off the training wheels on Alex’s little bike, a truly emotional moment. Although he hasn’t quite learned to ride yet, I know that when he crashes, he’ll get back up with me right there to support him.
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In summary, my journey to learn how to ride a bike was filled with challenges and setbacks, but ultimately, it turned into a heartwarming experience that I can now share with my children.
Keyphrase: Learning to Ride a Bike at 35
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