Life as an adult has its perks. I’ve cultivated a close-knit circle of friends—those who don’t mind if my house is a mess, who bring over cupcakes just to brighten my day, and who take action in a crisis without having to be asked. I cherish this group. I love our spontaneous backyard gatherings and our regular “Wine Wednesdays.”
So when my dear friend, Sarah, announced her family’s move to another state, I didn’t exactly take it in stride. Sure, they have a valid reason—their lives are hectic with her husband’s constant travel for work, which often leaves her juggling everything on her own. I get it. But that doesn’t make it easier for me. Cue the dramatic eye roll, foot stomping, and a full-blown pout.
I’ve felt lost and melancholic, unsure of how to cope with this news. Adults are supposed to handle tough situations, right? So, here are some lessons I’ve learned to help you deal with a similar scenario like a mature human being:
- Feign Support: Put on a brave face and tell her how thrilled you are about this “amazing opportunity” for her family.
- Try to Convince Yourself: When she insists this won’t change anything, remind yourself that “it’s not like we saw each other every day anyway!”
- Social Media Smiles: When she shares that bittersweet photo of the moving truck on Facebook, hit “like” and comment “Exciting!” Then, grab a tissue for the tears you’re trying to hold back. Chocolate is highly recommended at this juncture.
- Research Her New Home: Look up her new area and suggest places that are “just like” your favorite local spots. She’ll probably see through the lies, but she’ll appreciate the effort nonetheless.
- Envy with a Twist: Tell her the new place sounds fantastic and that you wish you could move there too, just to keep the positivity flowing.
- Cry it Out: If you find yourself sobbing during goodbye, claim it’s due to the outrageous interest rate on their mortgage.
- Cherish the Kids: Give her little ones the tightest hugs, and when it feels awkward, say you were just trying to figure out what laundry detergent they switched to.
- Be Nice to Her Husband: Resist the urge to glare at her husband, even if his job is the reason for this upheaval. Instead, express your excitement for him getting to be more involved in their kids’ lives.
- Put on Your Big Girl Pants: Acknowledge that while this is tough for you, it’s even more challenging for her.
- Maintain Your Friendship: Miss her dearly but don’t let distance dictate your bond. Download every app imaginable to stay connected, and enlist your child to teach you how to use them. And definitely keep that chocolate close by!
Facing the departure of a close friend is tough, but with these tips, you can navigate the emotional rollercoaster like a grown-up. If you’re ever in need of additional support, consider visiting ACOG for excellent resources on pregnancy and home insemination. And if you’re curious about DIY options, check out Make a Mom’s Artificial Insemination Kit or their BabyMaker Syringe Kit for helpful tools.
In the end, while being an adult can be challenging, at least you have the freedom to enjoy a glass of wine whenever you like—not just on Wednesdays!
Summary
Handling a friend’s move with grace involves a mix of feigned support, emotional honesty, and a commitment to maintaining the friendship despite the distance. Embrace the change with chocolate, laughter, and technology to keep your connection strong.
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