Do you find yourself counting on one hand the limited foods your child will eat? Is your dinner table a revolving door of the same three or four meals? Yes, your little one might be a picky eater, but recent findings in Pediatrics, as highlighted by the New York Times, suggest that “selective eating” can be associated with anxiety, depression, and ADHD.
This connection makes sense. Kids who experience anxiety often approach new experiences with caution—whether it’s trying out unfamiliar playground equipment, interacting with new friends, or adjusting to a new teacher. Food is merely one of many areas where their reluctance to try new things manifests. Researchers, including Dr. Laura Greene, the study’s lead author, emphasize that picky eaters may also have heightened sensitivity: “Their sensory experiences are more intense in terms of taste, texture, and visual cues. Consequently, their emotional reactions can be stronger,” she explains.
While a child who enjoys a variety of foods might crunch through a celery stick or bite into a beet without a second thought, a picky eater could find unfamiliar textures off-putting, steering clear of anything that might seem unappetizing.
When I came across this information, I thought, “this certainly sheds some light.” I’ve dealt with anxiety myself, and I find my food preferences lean heavily towards comforting staples like meat, pasta, and dairy—items with predictable flavors that lull me into a soothing food coma. Fruits and vegetables, while I do enjoy some, can be hit or miss. Take peaches in July—absolutely delightful! But those January strawberries that my partner devours? Way too tart for my liking. Tomatoes? Great in summer, but off-putting in winter. And bok choy? Just too bitter. Unless broccoli is roasted, it can be either overly crunchy or soggy.
For a long time, I thought my food preferences stemmed from my upbringing—rooted in a traditional American meat-and-starch diet. However, it could also be the sourness of those strawberries or the texture of that broccoli that keep me from enjoying them. They simply don’t provide the same comforting dopamine rush I get from a classic grilled cheese and tomato soup.
My sons, however, don’t seem to struggle with anxiety—they’re well-adjusted and sociable little guys. Yet, they share my love for grilled cheese and tomato soup, making it a challenge to introduce new foods into their diets. They are certainly choosier when it comes to fruits and vegetables, and I’ve often felt guilty for not being able to expand their tastes.
We’ve been adhering to Ellyn Satter’s division of responsibility, which can be summed up simply: I choose what’s for dinner, and the kids decide what from their plates they’ll eat and how much. No pressure, no fuss.
This approach has worked fairly well, but it’s hard to ignore their preference for carbs and meat over fruits and veggies. The recent study offers some reassurance, easing my feelings of inadequacy. I often wonder if I put more effort into creating delicious veggie-based meals, my boys would start to crave Swiss chard and sautéed zucchini. But the reality is that some children simply have their own tastes, which aren’t necessarily a reflection of exposure or a power play at the dinner table. That realization helps lift some of my guilt.
Moreover, this serves as a reminder that parenting is multifaceted. “Food is not just about nutrition; it plays a vital role in the larger picture of development,” Dr. Jana noted. Parenting involves long-term strategies, not just short-term battles over how many carrot bites your child has consumed. The goal is to raise children who are reasonably well-nourished, develop some cooking skills, and cultivate an appreciation for a wide variety of foods—an endeavor that spans years.
In the meantime, Dr. Jana recommends maintaining that division of responsibility for meals. She also emphasizes that mealtimes should focus more on family bonding rather than just the food itself. Teaching kids to relish the company as much as the meals is key. So, let go of the guilt, even if it’s the third grilled cheese they’ve devoured this week.
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In summary, understanding the complexities behind your child’s picky eating can alleviate some of the guilt you may feel as a parent. Embrace the journey rather than the small battles, and focus on fostering a loving environment around meals.
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