As a child, I remember my birthday parties vividly. The girls from school would gather in my backyard in suburban New Jersey, splashing in the pool and spreading sleeping bags out in the basement. The shrieks of laughter would blend with eerie scratching sounds that emerged from the walls, accompanied by the ghostly silhouettes of older kids peering in through the small basement windows. Initially irritated with my siblings, I soon recognized that my friends—and even those I barely knew—thrived on the thrill. It was delightful. My gifts included a colorful plastic chain-link necklace adorned with clip-on charms and an off-the-shoulder shirt splattered with neon handprints. I was 10.
Fast forward to August 1995. I found myself visiting my father in the hospital after a long day at my perfume factory job. Free evenings were a new luxury for me, having just left my second job in telemarketing, where my supervisor kindly pointed out, “You’re very sweet, Jenna, but you need to sell.” Dad was battling a kidney infection, a relief compared to the mysterious ailment that had left my mom unable to tie her shoes the previous year. I excitedly told Dad about the car I bought that day—a beat-up tan 1983 Dodge, purchased with $1,000 in cash carefully stashed in a bank envelope. The thought of driving to campus in the fall and taking my roommates to Boston and the mall filled me with joy. I was 20.
Now, August 2005 brought a sweltering heatwave. I caught my reflection in the mirror and saw a round, flushed face. My pregnancy had transformed me; everything felt round, especially my belly, which barely fit into one of the few Old Navy maternity T-shirts I owned. Three years earlier, my husband and I had fallen in love with an old Colonial house, charmed by its hardwood floors, but now we were sweltering without air conditioning—a trivial detail in December but significant in a heatwave. I had quit my stressful job as a corporate lawyer, which I attributed to my struggles with infertility. Now, I was a stay-at-home mom-to-be, waiting in the nursery, watching my niece and nephews play with baby toys beside an empty crib that our cat was determined to claim. The doctor anticipated three more weeks until my baby arrived; little did we know, it would take almost five. I was 30.
Fast-forward to August 2015. Still without air conditioning, I took my laptop to the porch, hoping for a breeze to inspire me. As I wrote, the sounds of my children filled the air, their laughter mingling with the rustling leaves. The youngest was about to start kindergarten, and I felt a mix of pride and bittersweet nostalgia. My 30s had been a whirlwind of motherhood—wonderful yet exhausting. I cherished the warmth of summer, knowing the gray winter loomed ahead, always threatening to seep into my life. I observed my children growing and becoming more independent, and while it was tempting to cling to them, I knew this was part of their journey—and mine. I was also evolving, mending the frayed edges of my own identity as they had nourished me for the past decade. I felt strong, healthy, and whole as I embraced my new chapter at 40.
This article was originally published on July 5, 2015.
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In summary, my birthdays have marked significant milestones, each decade reflecting growth, challenges, and transformations that shape the woman I am today.
Keyphrase: A Portrait Of My Birthdays Over Four Decades
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