Dear Stay-at-Home Mom,
Hello! I’m a working mom, and when I take a step back, it’s clear to me that we share more similarities than differences. However, the narrative I see online often turns into a competition over whose situation is more challenging.
Here’s my perspective: Motherhood is a collaborative effort. We need one another, and to truly support each other, we must first understand our unique experiences.
So, here are five things I’d like you to know about me, a working mom:
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I recognize the hard work you put in daily. I’m not deluded into thinking you’re lounging around. I understand the dedication it takes because I experience the demands of parenting every weekend when I’m home with my child. It’s exhausting, even with my partner’s help. I admire the way you manage everything for your little ones while also carrying the household responsibilities. It’s no small feat.
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My job isn’t a vacation. I have bosses, clients, and tight deadlines that keep me on my toes. I often skip lunch to get ahead on projects, all while dreading the dreaded call from daycare: “Your child is sick, come pick her up.” I work extra hard so that when that call comes in, I can drop everything to be there for my daughter.
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I genuinely need your friendship. I see your posts on social media about playdates and bonding with other moms, and I can’t help but feel a tinge of jealousy. Building that community is more challenging for me as a working mom. So when you see me at the park in my work clothes, please don’t judge. Just remember, I’m there to spend precious time with my child, just like you, before I have to dash home to prepare dinner.
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I view myself as a full-time mom, regardless of my job. I assure you, I’m actively involved in my child’s life. I’m not outsourcing my parenting duties. Just because I step into my office doesn’t mean I stop being a mother. I’m in constant contact with my daughter’s school and healthcare providers, organizing activities whenever I find a spare moment. My experience as a working mother is simply tailored to my family’s needs.
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I didn’t choose my career over my child. This misconception is particularly painful, especially since it’s rarely applied to fathers. My work is essential for my family’s financial stability, and I love what I do. Additionally, I am part of a generation advocating for better maternity leave, equal pay, and more support for families. I want a brighter future for my daughter, and I want the same for your daughter too.
Stay-at-home mom, we need each other. Instead of focusing on our differences, let’s celebrate the ways we complement one another. Together, we can create a better environment for our daughters, providing them with more options as they navigate their futures. Let’s also support our sons, ensuring they receive understanding and flexibility when they need to take time away from work.
Let’s unite as a team. It will be rewarding, and I promise to bring the snacks! And, dear SAHM, I’m open to hearing what you want me to know, too.
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In summary, let’s embrace our shared experiences and work together to create a supportive community for both our children and ourselves.