My dad was the type of guy who could put two fingers to his lips and unleash a whistle that could rival a train’s horn. It became our family’s signature “time to come home” call, echoing through the neighborhood at dinner time. It was also the wake-up call on Saturday mornings, long before our teenage bodies were ready to greet the day.
“Breakfast is ready!”
Those words filled me with dread. I despised pancakes. I loathed the descent down the stairs behind my five equally surly brothers, still half-asleep and sporting unkempt hair.
“Get a move on; they’ll be cold soon!” Dad would shout, though we were close enough to hear a whisper. He wielded his silver spatula like a traffic cop directing a busy intersection. “I’ve been up since 6:00 preparing this feast for you all. The least you can do is look awake. Show some respect.”
We would plop down at the table, sighing heavily as we scraped our chairs against the floor with exaggerated force.
- “Pass the orange juice.”
- “Leave some syrup for the rest of us!”
- “Why so much butter?”
- “These pancakes are cold.”
- “Could you chew with your mouth closed?”
- “Kevin, wake up! Get your head off the table before Dad sees you.”
I would meticulously slice my pancakes into perfect squares, rearranging them like a puzzle. When Todd wasn’t looking, I’d sneak some onto his plate, knowing he’d repay me with vegetables at dinner.
“Rise and shine! Early bird gets the worm,” Dad would declare as he burst through the kitchen door, balancing a platter of pancakes that could make Aunt Jemima envious.
“Keep your elbows off the table! Where’s your napkin? Straighten your backs, chins up! A little class goes a long way.” He would make his rounds, piling pancakes onto our plates without waiting for a response.
“Beautiful day ahead, lots of chores to tackle. Your lists are on the fridge, as usual. No one leaves until the work is done. Remember, work before pleasure. It’s the key to success.”
This routine unfolded week after week, as predictable as the changing seasons. We grew up in a home built on a framework of expectations. While it sparked countless clashes between father and child, it also instilled in us a profound sense of responsibility that shaped our futures.
An electrical engineer by trade, my father found solace in rules and formulas. He embodied the quintessential “Dad,” believing emotions were for the weak. He excelled at delivering lectures, with a stockpile ready for any occasion. There were talks about not jumping on beds, not pulling the banister while racing upstairs, and not sitting on the edges of chairs to avoid damaging the cushions. He had a particularly emotional lecture reserved for tool-related offenses and a fiery one that made an appearance during special events—like the day David decided to take the car for a joyride before he had his license. And heaven help us if Mom had prepared dinner; we were going to enjoy it.
I still wonder what would have happened if he “had to turn around one more time” while driving the eight of us on that seven-hour trek to Maine or “if he had to come up there” when we were giggling past bedtime.
His best talent, without a doubt, was that whistle. A sharp, commanding three-note tune that sliced through the neighborhood air and sent six pairs of legs racing home faster than we chased the ice cream truck. He understood the importance of family meals and the connection they fostered.
Recently, I found myself sitting in the bleachers at my son’s high school volleyball game, watching the teams battle it out point by point. I caught a glimpse of my dad as he raised his fingers to his lips, preparing to whistle.
“Dad, don’t! You’ll embarrass him,” I chuckled, tugging gently on his arm.
“You think so?” he replied, a hint of nostalgia in his eyes.
“Yes! He doesn’t know about the whistle.”
“Probably for the better. These new teeth make it tricky,” he admitted, looking away, lost in thought.
“Still practicing your whistle?” I probed, surprised.
“Yeah, sometimes when the silence gets loud, I pretend it still has its magic, and you all come running home for dinner.”
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In the end, family signals, whether they come in the form of a whistle or a warm meal, create connections that last a lifetime.
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