Let’s face it: there’s something undeniably attractive about a partner who takes charge. Think of a strong, confident person asserting, “I’ve got this. It’s taken care of.” Because often, it feels like we’re the ones managing everything—truly everything. We’re juggling the kids, preparing meals, coordinating schedules, handling house maintenance, and navigating a calendar full of appointments.
Every little emergency seems to land in our laps: “The fridge is making a weird noise! Where’s Timmy’s soccer gear? I need cupcakes for school tomorrow! The dog’s sick! The baby’s sick! The baby’s sick ON the dog!” Sure, we cherish all the love and chaos, but wouldn’t it be nice if our partners could step up a bit more?
(And no offense to those wonderful couples who share the load equally—you folks are amazing! I’d love to visit your magical land where everything is perfectly balanced, but for the rest of us, let’s dive into this list.)
Many times, one partner ends up doing the bulk of the work (let’s call them The Handler), while the other seems to glide along (The Skater). Recognize your partner (or even yourself) in these descriptions? Here are some ways they might be dodging chores:
1. The What, Huh? Partner
This classic move involves simply overlooking chores that need attention. If laundry is piled high or the lightbulb is burnt out, they might just hope that The Handler will notice and jump into action. If you point out their inattention, expect the innocent response of, “What, huh?”
Handler: “You didn’t see the clean dishes in the dishwasher?”
Skater: “Nope, didn’t notice.”
Handler: “You’re eating cereal with a fork.”
Skater: “Yeah, I… like it that way.”
2. The Compliment Dodger
This partner skillfully sidesteps responsibilities by complimenting their spouse: “You do that so much better than I do.” While it’s flattering, it can feel like a sneaky excuse to avoid doing their fair share.
Skater: “You should book the dentist appointment; you’re way better at that.”
Handler: “Really? Is that a skill I honed over time?”
3. The Self-Promoter
Some partners love to announce their accomplishments as if they’ve won an award for their efforts. For example, if they occasionally bathe the kids, they make it sound like a monumental task.
My friend Lila has to remind her husband, “I do this every night. Don’t act like you’re the hero for doing it once in a while!”
4. The Procrastinator
This person agrees that chores need to be done, but mysteriously delays them. “I’ll handle it,” they say, but somehow it never gets done until it’s absolutely necessary.
Partner: “Don’t worry about the mess; I’ll take care of it.”
But then, that mess just lingers, causing The Handler to step in again.
5. The Task Delegator
While some partners prefer to manage outdoor chores like lawn care or maintenance, others may delegate those tasks back to their spouse. If you’re constantly shopping for gifts for their family, wrapping them, and asking for their input, it can start to feel like you’re their personal assistant!
Handler: “Can you help with the gift list?”
Skater: “Oh, you’re so good at that. You handle it!”
6. The Dismissive One
This is the expert at avoiding chores by insisting that they aren’t necessary. When you bring up concerns, they shrug it off.
Handler: “Can you help set up chairs for the party?”
Skater: “Nah, we can do that later; it’ll work itself out.”
And suddenly, you find yourself setting up for the party alone.
While the Skater lifestyle may seem more relaxed, it can lead to resentment and frustration for the Handler. And let’s be honest, it’s hard to feel romantic when you’re feeling overwhelmed.
So if your partner falls into one of these categories, it’s time to speak up. Let them know that while you appreciate everything they do, what really gets your heart racing is when they take initiative and help out. Forget flowers and fancy dinners; a spouse who handles chores is a true turn-on!
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In summary, whether your partner is a What, Huh? Partner, Compliment Dodger, Self-Promoter, Procrastinator, Task Delegator, or Dismissive One, it’s crucial to communicate your needs. A little extra effort from them can go a long way in keeping the romance alive.
Keyphrase: Ways Your Partner Avoids Household Chores
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