Updated: Jan. 11, 2021
Originally Published: May 15, 2015
My husband and I tied the knot in the ’90s, back when cell phones were as large as dinner plates and social media was just a glimmer in the future. As young newlyweds, we found ourselves attending wedding after wedding, celebrating our friends’ unions. Fast forward to today; the invites have slowed down considerably, but we recently attended a wedding that starkly differed from those of our youth. The bride, a colleague of my husband, was nearly two decades younger than me. Being part of the older crowd definitely changes the wedding experience, especially when you’re mostly unfamiliar with the other guests.
Here are some insights I’ve gathered as a not-so-newcomer to the wedding scene:
- Disposable Cameras Are a Thing of the Past
Gone are the days of disposable cameras on tables. Nowadays, guests are encouraged to whip out their smartphones and snap away, tagging their photos with clever hashtags like #ForeverWithTheSmiths or #SayIDoToAdventures. - DIY Takes on a Whole New Meaning
DIY isn’t about crafting picture frames anymore. It’s all about mason jars, chalkboard paint, and burlap. Thanks to Pinterest, brides can design their dream day or hire talented Etsy artisans if they prefer not to do it themselves. - Personalized Ceremony Music is the Norm
The classic “Here Comes the Bride” is no longer the go-to. Couples now curate their own playlists for the ceremony, setting a unique tone for their special moments. - The Dress Change is Now a Trend
In the past, brides would wait until the reception was over to change into something comfortable. Today, many brides switch to a shorter, easier dress during the festivities, trading their heels for flip-flops. As for me, I cling to my stylish shoes—no matter how much my feet protest! - Seating Arrangements Remain a Staple
The seating chart still follows a hierarchy. Close friends and family get prime spots, while distant relatives and acquaintances are relegated to the outskirts of the venue. - The Entertaining Uncle Is Still Invited
There’s always that one relative who can’t hold their liquor, and I’ve witnessed some amusing behavior on the dance floor. I once saw a gentleman downing a beer while doing a headstand—both impressive and a little unsettling! - I’m Closer in Age to the Bride’s Mom
It’s a reality check when I realize I share more in common with the mother of the bride than the bride herself. I can’t help but notice that the mothers are often sporting beaded gowns that scream “I’m middle-aged!” - A Whiff of Desperation Among Singles
There’s a certain scent of longing in the air among unattached guests. Even those who are content with their single status can feel the allure of relationships as they navigate the wedding scene. - The Freedom of Being a Guest
As a guest, I feel liberated. All attention is on the couple, allowing me to indulge in delicious food and dance like nobody’s watching. My husband spins me around the dance floor, and for a fleeting moment, I feel like I’m back in my twenties.
This reflection on weddings certainly brings a mix of nostalgia and humor. If you’re interested in exploring more about family planning and home insemination, check out some of our other blog posts such as this one about at-home insemination kits and insights on couples’ fertility journeys. For excellent resources on pregnancy and home insemination, visit the Mayo Clinic.
In summary, weddings have transformed over the years, reflecting changing times and tastes. From the way couples celebrate to the experiences of the guests, every wedding tells a unique story.
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