Beneath her polished, glamorous exterior, my mother concealed a surprising truth: her underwear was a decade old—and it showed. I distinctly remember the moment I discovered this as a child; it seemed impossible that such a radiant woman could wear such tattered undergarments. Even at nine, I thought it was time for an update.
Fast forward to today, and as a mother myself, I finally grasp the reasoning behind her choice. While I have my collection of newer, elegant lingerie that says “I’m not quite a grandma yet,” I also have a drawer dedicated to that other category: the clean but worn-out “everyday” underwear that probably should have been tossed ages ago.
While sorting through my dresser recently, I had an epiphany about why my mom held onto those questionable pieces for so long—and maybe, they should be celebrated. Here’s what “worn-out” underwear signifies to me now, thanks to my mom:
1. Worn-out underwear is a mom’s understated way of saying, “it’s not me, it’s you.”
This is a beautiful sentiment. My mother always prioritized our needs, ensuring my brother and I had clothing that wouldn’t embarrass us (until those cringeworthy Facebook memories surfaced decades later). She provided us with well-fitting cleats, intact snow pants, adorable Halloween costumes, and cozy winter coats. It’s no surprise that lingerie shopping often took a backseat on her to-do list.
When it came to the essential matters, my mom allowed us the space to navigate life on our own. Yet, when we needed to talk, she would pause her green bean casserole or turn off the television to really listen to us—with empathy and compassion. She taught me that making children feel heard in moments of vulnerability is one of the greatest gifts one can offer—and yes, it can be done while wearing the most worn-out underwear.
2. If you find yourself in worn-out underwear, chances are you’re a total badass.
My mom was an incredible tennis player. I would watch in awe as she effortlessly sent the ball soaring past her opponents. From the bleachers, I yearned to be as strong and fast as she was. As I matured, she encouraged me to embrace my sturdy build, which allowed me to excel in volleyball, basketball, and long-distance running. My mom showed me that women don’t need to don sexy lingerie to embody beauty; sometimes, real beauty is found in being strong and sweaty, sporting well-loved sports briefs while dominating the court or field.
3. Worn-out underwear also means you’re not taking life too seriously.
Let’s face it, we shouldn’t be so serious all the time. There’s something wonderfully refreshing about a perfectly polished woman sporting questionable undies beneath it all. In fact, I want to befriend that woman; she likely appreciates the absurd moments in our chaotic world.
I grew up in a household where laughter and teasing were the norm, with an unspoken motto of “tease and be teased.” As life becomes increasingly complicated, it’s more vital than ever to laugh at our flaws, missteps, and quirks—including even our less-than-stellar underwear collection. My mom is now in her 70s, yet we still share laughter—sometimes together, sometimes at each other—always with love and admiration.
So, thank you, Mom, for teaching me that even the most worn-out undergarments can hold beauty. That said, if my partner wants to surprise me with new lingerie for Mother’s Day, I’d be all for it.
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In summary: My mother’s worn-out underwear taught me valuable lessons about prioritizing family, embracing strength, and not taking life too seriously. Even the most tattered garments can carry meaning, and humor can lighten our burdens.
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