Scrolling through my Facebook feed often leaves me feeling unsettled, especially when I see people trying to pinpoint the causes of tragic events like suicides in teens—whether it’s mental health issues, overbearing parenting, or academic pressure. The truth is, we don’t really know what leads these young lives to such desperate choices. As Martha Jenkins, a local teenager, wisely put it, “Parents, chill out.”
To every parent reading this, it’s time to face the reality: your child is probably not going to Stanford, and likely not Harvard, Yale, or MIT either. (No, seriously.) I know you might have heard stories of kids getting into elite schools, but the statistics don’t lie. Last year, Stanford’s admission rate was under 5 percent. Let’s get real about this.
In an effort to help you refocus, I’ve compiled a list of genuine questions I’ve encountered from parents just like you. I didn’t respond to these right away, but I’m sharing my insights now based on my experience in college admissions and as a community advocate and parent. I’ll admit, my tone might be a bit cheeky because, honestly, we all need to lighten up—like Martha suggests. And stay tuned for some questions that I wish parents would actually ask!
Common Questions from Parents
Freshman Parent: “My kid is in honors math, and they have three hours of homework each night. If I pull her from the class, am I ruining her chances for Stanford?”
If your ninth grader has three hours of homework for one class, that’s a red flag. This isn’t just about college admissions; it’s about their overall well-being. Reach out to the teacher or school. Don’t let your child drown in excessive homework!
Sophomore Parent: “My son has a ‘B’ in English. How can I fix this so he has a shot at the Ivies? Would a unique summer trip help?”
First off, it’s not your job to fix this. It’s your child’s responsibility. If they need to improve their grade, they need to put in the effort. As for sending them on a far-off trip to “improve” their profile? Let’s just say that’s a stretch.
Junior Parent: “How significant are grades? Can kids with ‘B’s get into Ivy League schools?”
Grades are important, but let’s be real: admissions stats are daunting. Just because a kid has a few good grades doesn’t mean they’ll secure a spot at an Ivy.
Senior Parent: “My child is applying to 19 colleges.”
That’s not a question, but I might need to scream into a pillow over here!
Junior Parent: “I need to sign a form for my son to take more APs to stay competitive.”
That’s just an excuse! Limits exist for good reasons. You’re competing with other parents, not with their kids.
Freshman Parent: “How many AP classes does my child need for Yale? I’ve heard of kids taking up to 22!”
Let’s be honest: your kid isn’t getting into Yale. It’s time to accept that.
Do you think I pressure my child?
Well, constantly wearing that Harvard sweatshirt might suggest otherwise. It’s worth considering toning that down for your child’s sake.
Questions I Wish Parents Would Ask
How much sleep does my teen need?
Teens require at least nine hours for optimal health.
How does that affect homework time?
If school ends at 3 p.m. and your child has to wake up at 7 a.m., they should ideally be in bed by 10 p.m. That leaves only seven hours for homework, activities, and dinner.
What if my child has more homework than that?
You must advocate for your child! Contact teachers and express your concerns. If nothing changes, prioritize sleep over homework. Let your child know that their health is more important than any assignment.
What about those extra AP classes?
Don’t sign those forms. You’re the authority. Taking on more than recommended often leads to burnout.
Where should my child consider going to college?
Be open-minded. Not every great program is at an Ivy League school. Engage in meaningful discussions about college choices based on your child’s interests.
How important are grades and scores?
While they matter, they are not the sole factor. Colleges seek well-rounded applicants, not just those with perfect scores.
How can I motivate my child to excel academically?
Shift the focus from grades to learning. Encourage their best efforts without adding pressure. Mistakes are part of the process—help them learn from it without disappointment.
What if my child has perfect grades?
Even perfection doesn’t guarantee admission anymore. Many students boast top scores. Your child’s achievements are valuable, but they won’t alone secure a spot.
I went to an Ivy; does that help my child?
Times have changed. Admissions are tougher now. Just because you attended doesn’t mean your child will follow suit. Encourage them to carve their own path, not to replicate yours.
How can I help my child get into a good school?
Focus on helping your child discover their interests, engage in learning, and nurture skills outside of academics.
How do I relieve pressure from my child?
Stop implying that any one school is the ultimate goal.
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Summary:
It’s important for parents to understand that their children may not attend Ivy League schools, and that’s perfectly acceptable. The focus should be on fostering a supportive environment where kids can thrive academically and emotionally without succumbing to undue pressure.
Keyphrase: Your Kids Might Not Be Heading to Harvard
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