It’s a brisk Saturday morning at 7:47 a.m., and I’m racing to secure a spot in my favorite 8 a.m. step class. The usual participants are predominantly women ranging from their late 30s to early 50s. Today, though, I find myself walking in behind two fresh-faced, first-time moms. Here’s what I overhear:
“You look incredible! So slim!” says Mom #1 to Mom #2, both cradling their adorable little ones.
Mom #2 winces. “Oh no, I’m still a few pounds above my pre-baby weight with little Charlie.”
She looks great, and as a mom of three who’s always been mindful of fitness, I can tell.
“Yeah, I totally get it,” Mom #1 replies. “I can’t run as far as I used to before having Chloe, and keeping the weight off is a struggle. But I refuse to give up my wine!”
Cheers to that! And honestly, she looks even slimmer than her friend.
I completely understand the feeling. After the initial whirlwind of bringing home a newborn subsides and you settle into motherhood, it’s easy to obsess over “getting your body back.” Despite knowing that life has changed, we often expect our bodies to revert to their previous state. Watching these women head toward childcare, I wish I could share some wisdom:
1. You will never look the same again.
Your body undergoes permanent changes. Even if you manage to reach your pre-baby weight, those pounds will redistribute in surprising ways. For me, certain areas are harder to accept: my bathing suit fits differently now, and I have a new fold of skin near my knees from carrying extra weight for nine months (three times!). But not all changes are unwelcome; I’ve also noticed beautiful new curves and fuller hair thanks to hormonal shifts.
2. Your body won’t function like it once did.
Beyond aesthetics, your body’s functionality changes too. Running five miles without feeling a twinge in my hip may be a thing of the past. Achieving a flat belly is no longer a reality, regardless of how many crunches I do. Jumping jacks now come with an embarrassing surprise, and holding a plank without compromising my form is a constant work in progress. Two and a half years after my youngest arrived, I’m still exploring what my body can handle.
3. Your body will surprise you with its capabilities.
You’ll find strength you never knew you had, like when you pull an all-nighter to soothe a fussy baby or hold a toddler for hours on end. You’ll even discover how fast you can sprint when your little one makes a break for it in a parking lot. Embrace the newfound strength and endurance of your mama body; it’s truly remarkable.
4. Beauty can be found everywhere.
The never-ending chatter about post-pregnancy beauty can feel overwhelming. Yes, our bodies may sag and shift, but that doesn’t equate to losing our beauty. Our culture often neglects to celebrate these changes, but it’s crucial to recognize that our perspectives have evolved as well. Beauty can be found in unexpected places, from the delicate eyelashes of our sleeping babies to the joy of a toddler’s laughter. Allow yourself to appreciate the soft lines around your eyes or the way your voice soothes your child. And that fuller figure? It’s absolutely beautiful.
These are the realities of my post-baby body. While I still wrestle with body acceptance and occasionally feel envious of celebrity moms with their trainers and meal plans, I recognize that there’s no turning back. So why waste time feeling down? The best approach is to embrace the mama body I have and, of course, keep enjoying that wine!
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In summary, our bodies change dramatically after childbirth, both in appearance and functionality. While it can be challenging to accept, embracing our new capabilities and redefining beauty can lead to a more fulfilling experience of motherhood.
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