Ah, the newborn phase. Experienced moms often reminisce about it with a sense of nostalgia, which can make new moms want to throw something at them. Let’s be honest: having your first baby is no walk in the park. Sure, looking back, one baby can feel like a slice of paradise. But when you’re exhausted, unkempt, dealing with postpartum emotions, and juggling the chaos that comes with a new life, the idea of parenting for the next eighteen years can make you contemplate drastic changes, like a name change or a spontaneous trip to Vegas. I understand—I’ve been there. But before you consider running away, here are some things I wish I had known as a new mom:
This Is the Toughest Phase
For the first time, you’re required to prioritize someone else’s needs above your own—constantly. You’re now responsible for another human being, which is both overwhelming and daunting. You might find yourself questioning your own sanity while trying to suppress that hidden selfishness you never knew existed. It’s tough, especially when you’re up for the umpteenth time, reeking of baby spit-up and desperately craving sleep. Remember: you don’t actually hate your baby. You’re just navigating the challenging learning curve of motherhood. Kudos to you for not booking that flight to Vegas!
No One Is Watching Your Feeding Choices
Contrary to what social media might suggest, no one is overly concerned about how you feed your baby. If you choose to nurse in public, go for it—nobody will bat an eye. And if they do, channel that postpartum energy and remind them it’s your legal right. The same goes for bottle-feeding. If anyone dares to judge you, consider it a perfect opportunity to find out who your true friends are.
Cluster Feeding Will Eventually End
During those demanding feeding sessions where your baby seems to want to nurse non-stop, just remember: it won’t last forever. You may find yourself not showering for days on end, but this too shall pass.
Always Pack Extra Clothes
Because let’s face it, you never know when a blowout or a spit-up incident will occur.
You Will Become Unfazed by Bodily Fluids
At some point, you’ll find yourself catching your baby’s vomit in your hands. You’ll be covered in poop, pee, and maybe even your own blood. While this might gross out anyone else, it will feel perfectly normal to another mom (and possibly your partner).
Unsolicited Advice Will Come From Everywhere
Unless they’ve birthed, adopted, or had any direct involvement with your baby, don’t let others dictate how you should be parenting. Sure, your partner’s input is valuable, but they better be tactful about it.
Your Baby Is Portable
Seriously! Strap that little one to you in a carrier, wait for them to snooze, and carry on with your life. My partner and I once enjoyed an oyster bar visit with our one-month-old in a Moby wrap, and no one batted an eyelash. When the baby fussed, I simply whipped out my breast.
You Don’t Need All the Gear
Keep it simple: a few diapers, a couple of outfits, and maybe a pacifier. Unless you’re formula feeding, you really don’t need much more than that. Leave the fancy gadgets and countless extras at home.
Trust Your Instincts
If something feels off, it probably is. Your baby may not have colic; they might just be uncomfortable due to something like acid reflux. Listen to your intuition and seek solutions until you find what works.
Accept Help When It’s Offered
If someone offers to bring you food or help tidy up, say yes! It’s hard to accept help when you’re used to being the one who assists others, but you owe it to yourself to take a break.
It’s Your Baby, Your Rules
Only you and your partner should decide who holds your baby. Feel empowered to reclaim your little one whenever you wish. Yes, it might create some awkward moments, but remember: your baby, your rules.
Take Time to Enjoy
Allow yourself to relax, snuggle with your baby, and enjoy these fleeting moments. By the time you have your third child, you may find yourself spending weeks just enjoying those precious cuddles without moving much at all. Take a deep breath, savor those baby smells, and let everything else wait.
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In summary, the newborn stage is a whirlwind of emotions and challenges, but it’s also a time filled with love and connection. Embrace the chaos, trust your instincts, and remember that you’re not alone on this journey.
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