Breastfeeding with Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex (D-MER): Symptoms & Causes

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If you’ve ever felt a wave of sadness or anxiety during breastfeeding, you may be experiencing a lesser-known condition called Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex (D-MER). While many mothers envision a serene bonding experience during nursing, some encounter a starkly different reality.

What is D-MER?

D-MER is a phenomenon that can affect certain breastfeeding mothers, leading to feelings of discomfort or unhappiness just before milk is released. These sensations are fleeting, typically lasting only a few minutes. Although this condition has likely existed for a long time, it gained attention in 2007 when lactation expert Bethany Carter noticed intense negative emotions while nursing her second child. Through her research, she discovered that several other women shared similar experiences.

What are the Symptoms of D-MER?

Symptoms of D-MER can vary but generally include feelings of sadness, anxiety, or anger that arise during the milk letdown. It’s crucial to differentiate D-MER from postpartum depression or the “baby blues,” as D-MER is specifically linked to the act of breastfeeding and the physiological processes involved.

What Causes D-MER?

The exact cause of D-MER remains unclear, but some theories suggest it may be related to hormonal changes that occur during breastfeeding.

How is D-MER Diagnosed?

D-MER is often diagnosed based on reported symptoms. If you’re experiencing distressing feelings during breastfeeding, it may be worth discussing with a healthcare provider who can help rule out other conditions.

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Summary

D-MER is a unique condition that can affect breastfeeding mothers, leading to temporary feelings of unhappiness during milk letdown. Recognizing the symptoms and understanding the condition can help manage it effectively. For support and resources, consider exploring various options available for mothers, including community groups and at-home insemination services.