Yesterday, I received a text from my daughter while she was at a sleepover with her friends. “It’s really annoying when everything your friend does seems to outshine you.” I quickly replied, “Absolutely!”
She continued, “She gets to do all these cool activities and can afford everything because her parents have money. I just feel like the broke girl with divorced parents.” My heart sank because I understood precisely how she felt.
I texted back, “I get it. It’s tough. Honestly, I don’t enjoy being the broke divorced mom either. I wish things were different. Just try to focus on what you do have… like a loving brother.”
She replied, “It’s just that when we talk, it’s always about horseback riding, her national gymnastics team, and her beach house, etc.”
I encouraged, “Avoid comparisons. They only lead to misery.”
Her exasperation was palpable as she texted, “But she won’t stop talking about it!”
I responded, “Then let her talk! You’ve got your own talents—your singing, your writing, your great grades. You are amazing inside and out. If she can’t be humble, that’s her problem.”
She typed back, “If my self-esteem were any lower, it would be 20,000 leagues under the sea.”
I set my iPhone down, reminiscing about the complex dynamics of teenage friendships—the betrayals, the mistrust, and the sting of exclusion. Who’s in? Who’s out? This is a classic girl maneuver to assert control. While boys may fight it out, girls often leave each other on the sidelines.
Shortly after, my daughter returned home, and as she began to speak, the floodgates opened. “We were skating, and ‘Lila’ and ‘Sophie’ always skated together, holding hands. Whenever I approached, they would skate away or say, ‘It’s too hard to skate in threes.’ They acted like I was imagining it!”
Tears streamed down her face. “They kept asking, ‘What’s wrong with you anyway?’ I was left standing alone. It was awful!”
I hugged her tightly, smudged eyeliner and all. “It sounds so tough, sweetheart. It reminds me of my own school days when girls would exclude one another or write mean things on bathroom walls.”
“They still do that!” she exclaimed.
“I can imagine,” I replied. She took a moment to gather her thoughts. “Mom, on the train, they kept moving away from me. They’d be together in one spot, and whenever I approached, they’d just shift!”
I affirmed, “That behavior isn’t about you. You’re just their easy target for control.” The weight of her humiliation was palpable. I wished I could fix everything for her, but I knew I couldn’t.
As she cried in my arms, we talked about the challenges of growing up as a girl, friendships, and the so-called ‘mean girls.’ Eventually, she started making jokes about her smudged eyeliner, and bit by bit, she began to feel better.
Later, she went off to find something to do, while I sat on the floor, reflecting. I hoped I had been a good listener. While I recognized that there are two sides to every story, my instinct was to advise her to steer clear of those two girls.
This experience will undoubtedly leave a mark on her. I hope it’s a lesson learned.
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Summary
In this article, a mother reflects on her daughter’s struggles with friendship and self-esteem amidst mean girls. Through their conversation, she offers support and wisdom, encouraging her daughter to focus on her strengths and not to let the negativity of others define her. The experience serves as a poignant reminder of the challenges girls face while growing up and the importance of navigating these relationships with care.
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