Dear Emma,
As you stand on the brink of your college journey, people will say these years will be the best of your life. It’s a sentiment passed down through generations, perhaps a result of adults forgetting the challenges of those formative years. But remember, life is far more expansive than just what happens on campus, as you wisely noted recently.
Initially, college will feel thrilling and fresh, but don’t be fooled—this isn’t a time devoid of responsibilities. Your classes will test you in ways you never saw coming, and at times, you might feel overwhelmed. Even those who seem to have it all together share these feelings, including those who toss around fancy jargon you might not recognize.
You’ll invest countless hours studying, questioning if it’s enough. Anxiety may creep in, but don’t let it paralyze you. College is about more than grades and exams. You’ll likely experience moments of self-doubt, but trust me, you possess the determination and resilience to navigate these uncertainties. Don’t hesitate to reach out to your professors; they’re there to help, and asking for assistance is a strength, not a weakness.
Feeling lonely or homesick is part of the experience—it ebbs and flows. It’s perfectly normal; it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. You might worry about the struggles your friends face with anxiety or sadness, but remember, you’re not defined by those fears. College will bring its share of heartbreaks, failed tests, and disagreements with roommates. When these moments arise, talk about them. Find a friend, or call home. Sharing your feelings can lighten the load.
Cultivating true friendships takes time. Sure, you might hit it off with your dorm mates right away, but remember, the deep connections you cherish at home took years to develop. If you find yourself feeling adrift at night in a bed that doesn’t feel like yours, know that’s a common experience. Genuine bonds often form later, through shared classes, sports, or clubs, and those connections will be meaningful.
You may question if you’re missing out because you prefer a quiet night over wild parties. I know you, and you might find yourself cleaning up after someone else’s late-night antics. Prioritize your sleep—it’s essential for your well-being. I hope you find a roommate who shares your love for a good night’s rest. Sleep is a remedy for many problems, including the blues. And while I’m aware that socializing can involve alcohol, it shouldn’t define your college experience. You don’t have to participate in everything to fit in. Embrace quiet moments, like watching a movie on your laptop, and continue your morning runs; they are your anchor.
Balancing a part-time job and coursework will be challenging. While our support may ease your financial worries, it’s still common for students to stress about money. Seek out friends who understand these concerns; sharing can be comforting.
I hope you choose classes that ignite your passion rather than just those with clear job prospects. College is a time to explore diverse subjects and ideas, opening doors to new interests and perspectives.
It may seem like I urge caution, but I want you to embrace new experiences. Seek out adventures—whether it’s hiking, late-night discussions about life, or road trips with friends. This time is unique; you’re free from major responsibilities, apart from your own growth. When adults reminisce about college, it’s often the promise of possibilities they remember. While these years may not be as care-free as they seem, they are filled with excitement and opportunities. So, dive in with enthusiasm; this is your moment.
Love always,
Mom