At Evan’s preschool, there was a mom I once believed to be the epitome of perfection. Unlike most stay-at-home parents, who typically don the casual uniform of yoga pants and comfy tees, this woman always appeared polished and put together. No traces of her children’s breakfast or snotty noses were ever visible on her clothes. She volunteered frequently in the classroom and spent her mornings reading to her child, creating a serene start to the day. When bake sales rolled around, her treats were always the highlight, while my offerings were often left untouched. She seemed unfazed by the chaos of parenting, and I couldn’t help but envision a glowing halo hovering above her head.
A Surprising Encounter
Last spring, a fellow mom hosted a book launch party for me at her home. I read a chapter aloud and engaged in a Q&A, while enjoying some light snacks and mingling with familiar faces. The evening was delightful, filled with great company, until I spotted her—the Perfect Mother—approaching me. I couldn’t fathom why she was there, as I assumed she couldn’t relate to anything I had written.
“I just have to say how much I adored your book,” she exclaimed. “I could have penned nearly every word myself. It’s so me.”
Wait, what? How could she possibly connect with my musings? In my mind, she was the embodiment of everything I felt I could never achieve. As I stood there, struggling to process her words, my shock spilled over, and I probably sounded a tad crazy since we had never met before. Then, to my surprise, she erupted into laughter.
“Me? Perfect?” she chuckled, her laugh loud enough to shatter the illusion of her halo.
She went on to share that her morning shower was merely a wake-up call; she needed that jolt to get out of bed. Spanx were her go-to under jeans because yoga pants highlighted her cellulite, which she preferred to avoid. Her morning reading sessions with her child were a necessity because by evening, she was too exhausted to engage, and her son often drifted off to sleep in front of a movie. And those drool-worthy brownies? Her mother baked them because cooking was not her forte.
Hello, my new favorite person! I think I might just adore you.
Lessons Learned
Sadly, her son moved on to kindergarten last fall, and I haven’t seen her around since. Yet, she often crosses my mind, this wonderfully imperfect mom. Every time I find myself judging or feeling inferior to another mother, I picture that halo falling and hear her unrefined snort echo in my thoughts. That encounter taught me one of the most valuable lessons in parenting: perfection is a myth.
Let’s abandon the pursuit of being perfect and embrace the beauty of being ourselves.
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Conclusion
In summary, it turns out that perfect mothers do not exist. Let’s celebrate our own unique journeys in motherhood, free from the pressure of perfection.
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