Having spent nearly a decade refining my friendship skills, especially with fellow moms, I can confidently say I’ve mastered the art of being a supportive friend. From embracing the chaos of motherhood to ensuring my home feels lived-in, I’ve learned a few tricks along the way. Here are my top 9 tips for nurturing those friendships:
1. Embrace a Little Mess
Don’t stress about having a spotless home. When I visit friends and see a bit of clutter, it instantly makes me feel at ease. A few stray toys or a smudge on the coffee table? Perfectly normal! Plus, my dog adds that delightful touch of chaos with her occasional odor—who doesn’t appreciate a real-life scent of motherhood?
2. Let the Kids Be Loud
When my friends call, they can expect a chorus of my kids yelling in the background. It’s my way of making them feel less alone in their parenting struggles. Whether it’s a reminder that chaos is part of the package or a boost to their own parenting ego, it’s a gift that keeps on giving.
3. Accidental Culinary Disasters
When hosting, a little cooking mishap can go a long way. Once, I “forgot” the giblets in the turkey during Thanksgiving dinner—talk about a confidence booster for my friends’ cooking skills! The laughter that ensued made everyone feel like master chefs.
4. Keep It Casual
It’s important not to appear too polished. Before heading out, I might throw on some old jeans with a few rips or a shirt that’s seen better days. It helps my friends feel comfortable about their own style choices and reminds them that we’re all in this together.
5. Strategically Forget Your Child
Okay, maybe this one is a bit extreme, but forgetting your kid (not actually recommended!) could be a surefire way to remind your friends they’re doing just fine. I’m keeping this idea in my back pocket for any friendship emergencies.
6. Think Before You Post
On social media, I make sure to share the real struggles of parenting. Instead of posting about how my kids love helping clean up, I’ll share, “Why won’t this lice go away?” or “Bedbugs are the worst!” It’s all about keeping it real and relatable.
7. Stop Cleaning the Minivan
Minivans are meant to be lived in—embrace the mess! Once I let go of the need for a clean vehicle, my friends felt more at home and less envious of my supposed “perfect” life.
8. Rock the PJs Publicly
There’s something wonderfully liberating about wearing pajamas out in public. When I see another mom donning her SpongeBob pajama pants at drop-off, it fills me with joy. If you want to be a fabulous friend, don’t hesitate to wear your comfy clothes outside!
9. Leave a Few Floaters
When guests come over, I always make sure there are a few floaters in the toilet. Nothing says “you’re all okay” like a little bathroom humor to break the ice. It’s all part of the fun of friendship!
While some of these tips may seem silly, they create a sense of community and understanding among friends. So embrace the chaos and let’s uplift each other!
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