With each military deployment, a unique set of challenges emerges that few warn you about. As the spouse of a deployed service member, I’ve experienced firsthand the rollercoaster of emotions and situations that arise when my husband, whom I affectionately refer to as “Hero,” is stationed thousands of miles away. Here are ten unexpected things that come with his absence:
- Every Little Noise Becomes a Potential Threat: When you hear a sound at night, your mind races to the worst-case scenario. With two kids and a couple of dogs, the house can feel like a battleground. I remember one night when I heard a ruckus downstairs, only to discover my mischievous dog had escaped his crate and was tangled in the Christmas lights. The holiday spirit took a hit, but at least it wasn’t a burglar!
- DIY Skills are Put to the Test: Who knew I’d become a plumbing expert during this time? When my toilet started leaking, I had to improvise with superglue. Let’s just say it worked… for now. Deployment can bring out your inner handyman, even if you’re not particularly handy.
- Public Meltdowns Are Inevitable: Picture this: I’m juggling bags filled with care package goodies when one of my kids decides it’s the perfect moment for a tantrum. As onlookers shoot me judgmental glances because I had to use my foot to keep them in line, I can’t help but think—welcome to my life!
- Intrusive Questions Abound: Friends and acquaintances often mean well but can ask some oddly personal questions. “Isn’t it hard having him gone?” they inquire. Yes, it’s tough, but sometimes I wish they’d just offer a supportive hug instead of a question I can’t answer.
- Crafting Becomes a New Hobby: I’m not naturally crafty, but when it comes to sending care packages, I channel my inner DIY diva. Suddenly, I find myself covered in glitter and glue, trying to create something special to lift Hero’s spirits. Who knew sending a little joy could require so much creativity?
- Midnight Emergency Room Trips: There will be nights when you’re convinced something serious is wrong with you—like when you wake up feeling ill at 4 AM. Spoiler alert: it’s usually just a stomach bug. But in those moments, you feel utterly alone, and the nearest ER starts looking pretty inviting.
- Promises of Support May Fall Flat: Everyone pledges to help while your partner is away, especially at the going-away party. But when you actually need assistance fixing that leaky toilet, suddenly everyone is nowhere to be found. They might reappear just in time for the welcome home bash, though!
- Weather Woes: As if managing the household isn’t enough, you might face extreme weather conditions. Whether it’s shoveling mountains of snow or dealing with ice storms, all those storms seem to hit right when you need to get things done. It’s like Mother Nature is testing you!
- Skype Becomes Your Lifeline: Video calls become a cherished ritual. You quickly learn to embrace your disheveled appearance during late-night calls, focusing instead on that smiling face on the screen. It’s a small connection that makes the distance feel a little less daunting.
- Faith is Your Anchor: There will be stretches of time when you won’t hear from your spouse at all. The uncertainty can be nerve-wracking, but you learn to hold onto hope. It’s a comforting thought that, despite the risks, your partner is likely safe and just busy with their duties.
As I navigate this deployment, I’m sure I’ll discover more quirky realities—like how to manage a water leak with bedsheets or how to keep my sanity intact. I may miss Hero terribly, but I’m proud of him for serving, and I look forward to the day we can finally reunite. Until then, at least I can count on him to tackle the cat litter box duty for his first year back!
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Summary: When your spouse is deployed, you face unique challenges, from every noise becoming a potential threat to learning DIY skills and handling unexpected public meltdowns. Support can sometimes fall short, but with creativity, technology, and a little faith, you can navigate this journey with resilience.
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