Eleven years ago, I stumbled into the chaotic world of motherhood, completely unprepared for the revelations that awaited me. As I navigated this new terrain, I couldn’t shake the feeling that other moms were whispering and chuckling behind my back, thinking, “Look at her, she has no idea she’ll never sleep again!” or “Bless her heart, she thinks those crunches will bring back her pre-baby abs.” I admit, I entered this journey quite naïve, but surely I wasn’t the only one shocked by the reality that toddlers can and will watch you pee! This leads me to share a list of truths that “THEY,” the moms giggling in the corners, didn’t disclose before I embarked on this wild journey of parenthood.
After eleven years filled with toddler negotiations, the hunt for missing soccer uniforms, countless hours spent driving the family vehicle, and too many sleepless nights to count, I’ve compiled these essential insights that will catch you off guard if you’re not prepared.
So, here we go:
- No Mom Has It Figured Out: Not one mother on this planet has everything under control. We’re all winging it and crossing our fingers for the best outcome. Seriously. If a mom claims to have it all together, she’s probably not being truthful—and you might want to reconsider that friendship. The only exception? Mom Bloggers (just saying).
- Your Sleep Will Change: You will eventually sleep again, but it won’t be the same. For the rest of your life, you’ll slumber with one ear attuned to potential nighttime chaos, like a CIA agent on a mission. Even in deep sleep, you’ll magically know if your child is sleepwalking or if one of them needs medicine. It’s a bizarre talent that develops!
- Sick Days? Forget It: Sick leave is a myth in motherhood. You’ll be signing school forms while feeling nauseous, organizing class parties on pain medication after dental work, and dealing with a partner who expects you to handle errands while you’re laid up with the flu. The management of your household doesn’t care about your health—accept it now.
- Find Your Tribe: Make it a priority to connect with moms who get it, right from the moment your little one arrives. Scour the hallways of your hospital’s Mother-Baby Unit if you must, but find that one mom who lets you vent without judgment. When you ask if she knows what she’s doing, if she says “yes,” move on. If she says “Not a chance!”, hold onto her tightly and share wine regularly. If she answers your calls from the closet during tough days, she’s a keeper.
- Intimacy Becomes a Task: At times, sex will feel like just another item on your never-ending to-do list, sandwiched between “Create 25 unicorn-themed party favors” and “Unload the dishwasher.” Make time for it, because reconnecting with your partner is vital. Remember, that laundry pile will still be there tomorrow, but neglecting your relationship won’t go unnoticed.
- You May Not Adore Your Newborn Right Away: When you first bring your baby home, brace yourself—you might not immediately feel the love you expected. Sure, you’ll marvel at the miracle of life, but those initial days can be tough. Suddenly, running into your favorite coffee shop feels like a Herculean task. It’s okay to admit that you’re struggling with this new life; saying it out loud could lead to some solid friendships.
- Welcome to the World of Lies: You’ll find yourself spinning tales about Santa, the Tooth Fairy, and the Elf on the Shelf. You’ll craft elaborate explanations for how Santa gets in your house and why the Elf is still hanging out after all this time. You’ll become a master of deception while demanding honesty from your kids. Start brainstorming Elf hiding spots now—you’ll thank me later!
- Beware of Product Fear-Mongering: Almost every product out there can be said to harm your child if you believe the hype. From BPAs to GMOs, everyone has an opinion on what’s safe. When it comes to raising healthy kids, do your best and ignore the judgment of others. Remember, no one truly knows what’s best for your family, so if you occasionally indulge in bright orange mac and cheese, own it.
- Wardrobe Evolution: After childbirth, your underwear choices will be guided by sturdiness and support rather than being lacy or sexy. Embrace yoga pants and elastic waistbands as new best friends. You’ll find yourself rolling your eyes at anything with buttons, and it’s totally okay to wear leggings without shame. Shop for the body that grew humans, and wear those Spanx with confidence!
- You’ll Be Just Fine: The moment you meet your baby, you’ll instinctively know how to be a mom. You’ll make mistakes, of course, and there will be times you think your child will need therapy because of your blunders. Just do your best and trust your instincts. If your kids don’t appreciate your parenting style, they can navigate their own parenting adventures someday. Remember, you are the mom, and that’s all that matters.
This list isn’t exhaustive, but it certainly covers some essential truths. Rest assured, I won’t be snickering behind your back. Instead, I’ll pull you aside, offer a listening ear, and pour you a generous glass of wine while we navigate this rollercoaster together.
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Remember, you are not alone in this adventure!
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