Updated: August 16, 2015
Originally Published: December 28, 2011
From a young age, I had always dreamed of becoming a father. The moment I received that life-changing phone call at work, everything shifted. A newborn boy needed a loving home—our home. The months leading up to this moment had been filled with endless classes, paperwork, and emotional ups and downs, leaving us uncertain about the journey ahead. “We’re going to pick him up from the hospital,” the voice on the line said. “Once he’s here, we’ll call you to come get him. So, be prepared.” Little did I know, a whirlwind of events awaited me.
In a frenzy, I dashed home, called my partner Sam, and raced to the store, loading our cart with every baby essential we could think of: diapers, bottles, formula, pacifiers, and even some shiny toys. Then we returned home, set everything up, and settled in to wait.
And wait.
And wait.
I found myself glued to my phone, anxiously checking for updates. As the hours ticked by—four o’clock, then five—I began to worry. What was taking so long? By six-thirty, I decided to call the agency. After a few rings, an automated message informed me that they had closed for the day.
It was frustrating. I had invested so much into this process, and it felt like no one else shared that urgency. I imagined some worker, perhaps scrolling through social media instead of picking up my son, thinking he would be fine for another day. As the evening dragged on, my frustration grew. By five o’clock the next day, I decided to take matters into my own hands. “Sam, let’s get in the car. We’re going to pick up our baby.” I was ready to channel my inner Gandhi and stage a peaceful protest.
When we arrived at the agency, it was almost closing time. The receptionist, looking overwhelmed, greeted us. “Can I help you?”
“We’re here to pick up Zachary,” I replied, trying to keep my tone light.
“Oh. Did we… call you?” she asked, clearly confused.
“No, but it’s no problem. We can wait,” I said, smiling warmly, determined to remain calm like Gandhi would have.
Her brows furrowed. “I don’t think he’s ready—”
“That’s alright! We’ve got all night,” I insisted. “We brought books. We’re happy to camp out here.”
Reluctantly, she acquiesced, and I could see her annoyance as she busily whispered to colleagues in the back about “these people” and “that baby.” We settled in with our books, waiting. About an hour later, the receptionist emerged with a car seat in hand, looking flustered.
As she approached, my heart raced. When she unbuckled the seat, I felt a rush of emotion seeing the tiny, delicate face of my son. It was a moment I would never forget.
After a couple of hours of paperwork, I was officially a dad. “Watch out, world!” I thought. But as soon as we got home and I placed Zachary in his crib, reality hit me. What would I do when he woke up? Oh no, what had I gotten myself into?
Looking back, I now appreciate the dedication of social workers, who often face an overwhelming system. The challenges lie within the brokenness of the system, not with the individuals. In the end, everything worked out.
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In summary, the path to fatherhood can be filled with challenges, but the rewards are immense. Embracing the journey, despite the hurdles, is what truly matters.