When you embark on the potty training journey, you might feel ready. You’ve done your homework — perhaps read a few books or sought advice from friends who’ve navigated this path. It seems manageable, at least until the reality hits. The process can be challenging, with accidents, behavioral changes, and more laundry than you ever imagined. But eventually, your little one graduates from diapers to being a big kid. Although the path to their independence is not entirely smooth, it’s usually straightforward.
However, there’s an aspect of potty training that often goes unspoken: regressions. I’m not speaking of the minor setbacks common in toddlers; I’m referring to those frustrating episodes that can rear their heads once your child starts school. These regressions can occur unexpectedly, leaving you feeling perplexed and exhausted.
Currently, I’m navigating this very challenge with my daughter, and it’s unveiling parts of myself I never knew existed. Dark corners of my patience are tested when, for the fifth time this week, she rises from the couch with a wet backside, nonchalantly admitting, “I had an accident.” When I inquire how long she’s known, she simply shrugs.
My husband and I have always assured our daughter that accidents are perfectly normal. We’ve emphasized that we won’t react with anger; such things happen. Sometimes, the urge strikes too late or we simply lose track of time. It’s crucial to me that she doesn’t feel shame over these incidents, especially since I had a similar experience growing up with a bladder condition that went undiagnosed until I was ten. The shame I felt back then lingers, and I’m determined to spare my daughter from feeling that way.
Initially, it seemed we were achieving that goal. She didn’t appear embarrassed about her accidents, regardless of where they occurred. But then, toward the end of her first year of junior kindergarten, we moved. This upheaval disrupted her routine and severed her budding friendships. We lived out of boxes for weeks, trying to balance two homes while allowing her to finish the school year, even as we settled 45 minutes away.
Soon after the move, her accidents escalated. While there were still days without mishaps, some days she would have five accidents or more. She’d return from school in someone else’s pants, having completely exhausted her spare clothes. Unfortunately, the pattern continued at home.
We tried to maintain a calm demeanor, assuring her we weren’t upset, just puzzled about her inability to recognize when she needed to go. I reminded her to use the bathroom more frequently, especially since she never hesitated when it came to pooping. Yet, time and again, she’d return from the bathroom claiming she couldn’t go, only to have an accident shortly thereafter.
Eventually, she confessed that sometimes she held it in when I asked her to go because she resented being told what to do. She also admitted she disliked washing her hands, which contributed to her reluctance. While she claimed she couldn’t feel the urge, I remembered that she had never had an accident while we were out at restaurants; she always asked to use the bathroom then. Interesting, isn’t it?
Now that my daughter has just turned five, it seems like she’s grappling with severe FOMO (fear of missing out) and is ignoring her body’s signals until it’s too late. This behavior isn’t uncommon, right? After consulting our pediatrician, it seems that this is primarily behavioral. The power struggles we face daily, however, are draining. She refuses to drink water at school to avoid having to pee. When I ask her to use the bathroom before school, she creates such a fuss that we risk being late. I’ve tried yelling, pleading, threatening (and actually following through), bargaining, and even implementing reward charts, but nothing has proven effective for more than a week or two.
Every day has become a struggle. She’s visibly agitated by what should be a natural bodily function, and I’m uncertain how to assist her. No amount of reasoning or discussions has yielded a change.
For now, I cling to the hope that those who reassure me that she won’t be having five accidents a day when she’s 16 are correct. For her sake.
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In summary, potty training regressions can be frustrating and challenging for both parents and children. While it’s essential to approach the situation with understanding and patience, recognizing the underlying behavioral issues can also help in finding a resolution. With time, support, and the right strategies, it’s hopeful that your child will overcome these hurdles.
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