Updated: Jan. 29, 2021
Originally Published: Sep. 13, 2011
As a mom of eight, I often get curious glances and amusing inquiries from strangers, particularly in grocery stores. It seems that my family size prompts the classic questions: “Do you have a television?” or “Are they all yours?” While we never planned to have a large family, each child feels like they were meant to be here, and I wouldn’t trade our bustling life for anything.
People frequently ask how I manage it all. Honestly, I just do. It’s a bit like being a circus performer juggling new tasks while trying to keep the existing ones in the air. Occasionally, everything comes crashing down, and that’s when the real test begins—picking up the pieces and starting again.
1. Embrace Organization
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is that organization is essential. I’ve lost countless hours due to poor communication and time management. There are days when I find myself needing to get three kids to different activities simultaneously, all while preparing dinner and assisting with homework. To mitigate chaos, I created a large family calendar on a magnetic dry erase board to track everyone’s schedules—everything from gym clothes to musical instruments. Thanks to Google Calendar, I can sync with my husband’s schedule, reducing frantic calls from school about forgotten items. Also, a central bulletin board helps keep important information handy, like class phone numbers or birthday invites.
2. Everyone Contributes
Managing a household with many children means everyone must pitch in. A chore chart has been a game-changer in teaching my kids basic responsibilities. It encourages goal-setting, linking chores to privileges and consequences. Untasked kids can disappear like ninjas just when you need them, so holding everyone accountable simplifies my life. Surprisingly, the moment I hung the chart, they were eager to take on more chores—talk about a win!
3. Plan Meals and Shop in Bulk
To save time, I plan our meals ahead of time, reducing grocery trips to once a week. If you have the space, consider a warehouse membership to buy in bulk, which saves both time and money. I’ve learned the best stores for each department, and I often stock up on large quantities of essentials. After a shopping trip, I portion everything into bags—like 25 lbs of chicken breast or 40 lbs of drumsticks. With my trusty chest freezer, I can store everything, making meal prep a breeze. You’ll recognize me at the store: I’m the mom with an overflowing cart, ready to feed my hungry crew.
4. Control the Clutter
This has been a personal challenge. I used to save every piece of art my kids created, which quickly turned into a clutter disaster. Now, I take photos of the favorites, keep a few special items, and toss the rest. Each morning, after school drop-off, I try to tidy up (the keyword being “try”). At night, we enlist the kids for a “ten-minute tidy” of the living room. It’s amazing how quickly it gets done when everyone pitches in.
5. Prioritize Quality Time
My husband and I make it a point to carve out time for each other, even if it’s just a cozy date night at home. Whether we indulge in takeout or chips and salsa, any time alone is precious. Recently, a friend jokingly remarked on how we were holding hands in a parking lot, implying we actually liked each other!
6. Don’t Forget Yourself
Amidst the chaos, it’s crucial not to neglect your own needs. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a moment for yourself. Even a short daily escape—whether it’s waking up a bit earlier or enjoying a hot bath—can recharge your batteries. Remember, a happy parent contributes to a happy family.
Raising a large family is no small feat, filled with challenges, love, and abundant joy. No one knows your family’s needs better than you do, so take each day as it comes. You’re doing an amazing job!
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Summary
Managing a large family requires organization, teamwork, and a little self-care. Implementing a family calendar, chore charts, meal planning, and setting aside quality time can greatly enhance your family life. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey, and it’s all about taking it one day at a time.
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