In the year since my father passed away during our family trip to Cape Cod, my family and I have encountered a series of poignant milestones. We’ve navigated significant events—holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries—as well as smaller moments of adjustment, like my mother zipping up her own dress or the time I mistakenly dialed my father’s phone, only to hear it ring on my own desk.
Today marks the final ‘first’—the first anniversary of his passing.
At times, it feels as though it was just yesterday that I was sitting beside him on the beach; at other moments, it seems as if a lifetime has passed within this single year. A year is fleeting, yet each day stretches on endlessly.
I can vividly recall every detail of that fateful day: the outfit I wore, the dinner I prepared for my boys, the scent of salt and sand that lingered in their hair as I tucked them in, the text I was about to send when I heard my mother’s anguished scream, and the sight of my father lying lifeless on the ground. In that moment, I faced a heart-wrenching choice between being a daughter and being a mother.
My seven-year-old son had heard the commotion—the calls for 911, the rush of footsteps, the frantic attempts to revive my dad. His terrified cry pierced through the chaos, a sound born from a fear so profound it transcended words.
I had to decide: left or right? My father or my son?
In that brief moment of hesitation, caught between childhood and motherhood, I knew where I needed to be. You might think I made the wrong choice, but until you stand in that doorway, torn between the man who raised you and the boy you’ve brought into the world, you cannot understand the weight of that decision. Our instinct is to shield our loved ones from unbearable sorrow, no matter the cost. I couldn’t protect my mother, my brother, or my husband; they had already faced the pain. But I still had a chance to shield Jack.
So, I lay beside him, enveloping my trembling, frightened child in my arms, whispering reassurances that everything would be alright. I wasn’t just comforting him; I was also soothing the little girl inside me who still believed in fairy tales and the father who always made things right.
Today is just another day. I will feel the same ache of loss that I felt yesterday. When the clock strikes midnight, there won’t be some magic solution to erase my grief or fill the empty space. I wouldn’t want that, either. Grief has no expiration date; it is merely a reflection of the love we have. As my father wrote to me before I left for college, “We have not reached the end of the line, just the termination of this route. We are all changing trains, still journeying on together, destined by blood and love to cross and recross one another’s trails.”
Today is simply a day. And if I’m fortunate, tomorrow will bring another one—another opportunity to love deeply, without regret.
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In summary, the journey of grief is a testament to love. Each day is a reminder to cherish those we hold dear and to embrace the moments we have.
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