My partner and I usually maintain a peaceful household. Well, I should clarify—we have our share of disagreements. We exchange playful banter, eye rolls, and the occasional jibe where I call him a “knucklehead,” which tends to annoy him. There are even moments when a door may slam. However, we seldom escalate to a point where one of us leaves the house in a huff or makes threats of departure. Honestly, I’d love to see him try to declare he’s leaving our shared space of domestic bliss!
That said, we are generally a couple that enjoys friendly debates. We avoid name-calling, we don’t hit below the belt, and we steer clear of empty threats. I’d even venture to say our neighbors would agree that the morning our son missed the bus—thanks to my partner’s complete lack of urgency—resulted in my shouting at him in the street while I was still in my bathrobe and slippers was more amusing than alarming. While we may go to bed upset sometimes, it’s typically not long before one of us nudges the other, prompting a smile that helps us move past our disagreements.
Except for that one epic disagreement: “The House Purchase Saga of 2005.”
Everyone involved can affirm that this was no ordinary spat. It was monumental, even our realtor was taken aback!
The uproar began over crown molding in a laundry room we hadn’t even purchased.
After the arrival of our little one in September 2005, we thought it wise to start house hunting just eight weeks later—right in the thick of the holiday season. I can only attribute this decision to sleep deprivation, exhaustion, and my frustration with still wearing maternity pants two months after giving birth. We were determined to find a bigger, more modern home.
We had two absolute criteria for our new abode: an extra garage bay for him and a renovated kitchen for me. These were non-negotiable. If we couldn’t find a home with both features, we’d keep looking. And it seemed our strategy was working—until we stumbled upon The House That Sparked the Argument.
This house, truthfully, didn’t have the extra garage bay. Logic suggested we should continue searching. But, as I mentioned, sleep deprivation and tight pants were driving our decisions, so we decided to take a look anyway. The sellers were “motivated to sell” and had slashed the price significantly. Just a quick look, we thought.
To say I was blown away by the kitchen would be an understatement: Brazilian hardwood floors, stainless steel appliances, a Viking range, and granite countertops so intricate they resembled a Jackson Pollock painting. I counted an astounding 32 cabinets—32! The kitchen even had a cozy nook for a couch, where guests could relax while I prepared my culinary masterpieces.
Then, I stepped into the laundry room, and it was as if angels sang; the stainless steel front-loading machines sparkled in a beautifully decorated space complete with crown molding. I could envision myself folding laundry like a 1950s housewife, pearls and all! No way would there be laundry piles in a room so divine!
I was head over heels. This was the home where we would build our family! Our search was over! I was practically spinning like Julie Andrews, envisioning my stainless steel kingdom. But my husband, arms crossed and shaking his head, delivered the crushing blow: “It doesn’t have a third garage bay. Deal breaker.”
Oh no, he didn’t just rain on my parade of 32 cabinets!
I scrambled for a reasonable counterargument, but he stood firm. The kitchen fell silent as we locked eyes in a fierce standoff. Our realtor, sensing the tension, suggested we “sleep on it.” I suspect he wanted to get me out of there before I decided to barricade myself in the laundry room. With one last glance at my dream kitchen, I sulked down the extravagant walkway to our car.
That’s when the real drama began.
There was a whirlwind of pleading, begging, and swearing. I dug my heels in, refusing to budge, and more swearing ensued. Our two innocent children in the backseat witnessed the chaos—thank goodness one was asleep and the other was preoccupied with a lollipop.
Nothing I said could change my husband’s mind. No third garage bay meant no dream kitchen. He kept insisting we look for a “Compromise House.” I might have suggested that my compromise would be allowing him to live there with me. Ahem.
The bickering continued at home, escalating to a point where my arguments became nonsensical, and I spent more time flailing around in a Sumo wrestler pose. Yet no matter how loudly I yelled, I couldn’t make my husband see that this house was our dream home.
As the tension reached a boiling point, I couldn’t take it any longer. Fed up, I stormed out of the house and slammed the door hard enough for the windows to rattle and two pictures to fall. Fueled by rage, I drove myself to an open house we had planned to visit later that day. I would show him—I’d search high and low to prove that no other house could compare. All the other homes would be second-rate, inferior, and I’d hold that kitchen over his head forever!
Upon arrival at this new house, which I could tell from the street didn’t have my dream kitchen, I marched up the driveway, trying to ignore the beautiful landscaping. And yes, there was a third garage bay. And yes, the yard had more mature trees. But I stood firm—this house was going to be a disaster, I just knew it.
However, as I stepped inside, the stunning double staircase and the wall of windows showcasing lush greenery did little to quell my anger. The freshly painted walls and lacquered hardwood floors beckoned, but I refused to be swayed. And then, I entered the kitchen.
At that moment, I had to confront my pride. This kitchen—though not quite as grand—had a better layout, more natural light, and practical finishes. It was where we would truly build our lives. I realized I might have to take a slice of Humble Pie.
Standing in what would soon be our new kitchen, I made an uncomfortable phone call. “Hi, Honey, I know I slammed the door and left in a huff, but GUESS WHAT? I’ve found a Compromise House that has three garages and it’s PERFECT! You need to come over Right. This. Minute.”
As I awaited his arrival to finalize the deal, I secretly squealed over the adjustable cabinets where I’d store my baking supplies. I sensed I’d be making many more Humble Pies in our new home. Over the years, I’ve enjoyed serving myself slices with ice cream on the side to make the pride easier to swallow.
Conclusion
In summary, the “House Purchase Saga of 2005” is a tale of a couple navigating the challenges of buying a home amid the chaos of new parenthood. Their differing priorities led to a memorable argument, showcasing the trials of compromise in both marriage and home buying. Ultimately, the couple discovered that the perfect home may not always align with their initial dreams, but still holds the potential for happiness.
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