After navigating the emotional rollercoaster of the tween years with my eldest daughter, I find myself yearning for a bit more rational dialogue and a tad less drama—oh, the dreams of a mother! While raising a teen is certainly less tumultuous than the tween phase, thanks to my now steely heart, it still presents a unique set of challenges. I’m learning the delicate art of giving her space as she discovers herself, celebrating her achievements while also letting her own her mistakes. She’s figuring out that it’s perfectly fine to stumble, that she can lean on me when things get tough, and that embracing her individuality is a beautiful journey.
As I parent my teen, I can’t help but reflect on my own teenage years in the ’80s and how different things are now. Yet, a handful of ’80s hits keep popping up on my favorite playlist, and their lyrics resonate perfectly with my experiences today:
- Duran Duran, ‘Girls on Film’
In today’s world, it’s more like Snapchat, which has become the modern equivalent of film (if only she knew what that actually was). My nearly 14-year-old is on a selfie spree, sharing countless snapshots—some are intentionally goofy while others are downright stunning (#nofilter). I remind her that the online world has a memory, but she just rolls her eyes and carries on snapping. - The Clash, ‘Should I Stay or Should I Go’
I often find myself questioning when my daughter wants me nearby to assist with her homework or social dilemmas and when she needs me to back off. My instinct is to hover, but I understand that figuring things out independently is a crucial part of growing up. These days, I’m more attuned to when she needs me and when she’s got it handled. - Madonna, ‘Like a Virgin’
Our conversations about relationships and intimacy are far more frequent than what I experienced with my own mother. A part of me wants to shout, “Abstinence!” while the other part remembers the overwhelming hormones of my youth, leading me to adopt a more pragmatic approach. We discuss the nuances of when it might happen, how to express desires, and the importance of safety—awkward, yes, but raising teens was never meant to be easy. - Rob Base & DJ E-Z Rock, ‘Joy And Pain’
Even though she’s getting better at managing her emotions compared to her tween days, my daughter still has her moments of intense joy and pain. Her emotional outbursts, though less frequent, can be quite dramatic. Whether it’s celebrating a good grade with cartwheels or having a meltdown, her feelings are always raw and real. - AC/DC, ‘Back in Black’
Gone are the days of princess dresses and pastel colors; now, I have a teen who lives in black. From leggings to ripped jeans and chic black tees, her wardrobe reflects a bold new identity. Occasionally, she adds a dark gray top or a maroon hoodie—phase or lasting style? Either way, she pulls it off with flair. - Pet Shop Boys, ‘What Have I Done to Deserve This?’
When my daughter throws me a glare over trivial issues, like not providing her with a napkin or reminding her about a ride, I often wonder what I did to deserve such treatment. Then I remember: I’m dealing with a teenager. The answer? Absolutely nothing. It doesn’t excuse her behavior, but it helps me understand the chaos of the teenage brain. - Salt-N-Pepa, ‘Push It’
If you thought establishing rules for toddlers was tough, wait until those toddlers morph into teens. For instance, when she asks for a late-night ride after making her own plans, I find myself torn between admiration for her independence and the need to enforce our household rules. Setting boundaries is our job, and it’s her job to test them. - Simple Minds, ‘Don’t You (Forget About Me)’
In her quest for independence, my daughter sometimes takes on too much, whether it’s emotionally or academically. She often forgets she has a wealth of knowledge and support just down the hall—me. I gently remind her that I was once a teenage girl too and I’m always here to listen, advise, or just embrace her. - Guns N’ Roses, ‘Sweet Child O’ Mine’
The best part about having a teenage girl? The sweet child within her still shines through. Parenting her is complex, but amid the eye rolls and rebellious phases, I know she has a golden heart.
Raising a teenage daughter keeps me on my toes, but as long as we maintain open communication—whether through selfies, candid chats about relationships, fashion advice, or simple hugs—I’m confident we’ll navigate this journey just fine. Perhaps I’ll even create her a mixtape!
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In summary, parenting a teenage girl is a whirlwind of emotions, challenges, and triumphs, but with love and communication, we can navigate this exciting phase together.
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