As I prepare for my trip to visit my daughter in Portland, I find it hard to believe she has graduated from college and is now navigating adulthood. Packing for this visit brought back a flood of memories, especially of her as a little girl. It’s astonishing to think she’s already 22!
One memory stands out vividly as a defining moment in my parenting journey. My daughter, Lily, was in first grade, and after dinner, we found ourselves in the kitchen. She couldn’t stop giggling about a Shih Tzu, relishing the fact that she could say “shit” without actually saying it.
After hearing “Shih Tzu” for the umpteenth time, I finally snapped.
Me: “That was funny the first few times, but it’s time to stop.”
Lily: “Stop what? Saying ‘Shih Tzu’?”
Me: “Yes, that’s exactly what I mean.”
Lily: “You really want me to stop saying it?”
Me: “If you say it one more time, you’re going to bed at 8:30.”
At that moment, my older son, Jake, who was two years her senior, perked up, sensing the rising tension.
Lily: (laughing) “You won’t really send me to bed at 8:30!”
Jake’s eyes widened in anticipation as I felt the pressure mount. I realized that this was a pivotal moment—not just for Lily, but for me as a parent. I had often threatened consequences without following through, letting my kids know that certain privileges were always secure.
Me: “Lily, I’m serious. You’re going to bed at 8:30 if you say it again.”
Lily: “You don’t mean it! I promise I won’t say it again!”
In that instant of hesitation, I noticed Jake subtly encouraging me with a nod.
Me: “No, really. Get ready for bed. It’s almost 8:30.”
Lily: (bursting into tears) “I can’t believe you’re making me go to bed at 8:30!”
Jake’s grin was infectious. “Nice job, Mom. I didn’t think you’d actually do it.”
That night was a lesson for all of us. I learned to be a more consistent parent, and both Lily and Jake understood that my words carried weight. After that, my children began to take my threats seriously—so did I.
Ironically, Lily now works with dogs, focusing on obedience training. I can only imagine how often she emphasizes consistency and follow-through in her job!
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In summary, learning to follow through on promises is crucial in parenting and life. It teaches children that their actions have consequences and helps create a foundation of trust and respect.