It is estimated that 1 in 6 women has experienced either a completed or attempted rape. Although exact figures are difficult to ascertain due to underreporting, approximately 1 in 5 girls are victims of childhood sexual abuse. Self-reports suggest that around 20% of women endure sexual assault or abuse during their childhood. In my personal circle, it appears that I belong to that 20%. Most women I know have faced some form of assault or violation throughout their lives. Therefore, the pressing question shifts from “Did you experience sexual violence?” to “When did you experience it?”
We need to establish guidelines for addressing these sensitive topics, ensuring we speak about them with the gravity they deserve. First and foremost, we should always include trigger warnings, no matter how trivial they may seem to some. While it may feel tedious to add *** TRIGGER WARNING BELOW *** in a social media post, these warnings serve an essential purpose. For those who have been affected, such acknowledgments provide them the choice to engage with potentially distressing material. This choice was taken from them at least once before, and they deserve to reclaim it. Encountering triggering content can lead to a feeling of re-victimization, a sense of powerlessness that can be overwhelming.
Secondly, we must encourage open dialogue and create a nurturing environment where individuals can share their stories of assault. This requires those of us who have faced such experiences to speak out—not necessarily in graphic detail, but in a spirit of solidarity. For instance, I experienced molestation as a child and was raped twice during my college years. By sharing my story, I invite others to share theirs, fostering a sense of communal healing. Through this shared experience, we learn that we are not alone and that the blame does not rest on us. We did not invite such violence; it is not our fault. By voicing our truths, we pave the way for others to reaffirm their own.
When someone discloses their experience, it is crucial to respond with the same reverence we would offer upon receiving news of a death. In many ways, this is a death: the loss of innocence and autonomy over one’s body. The appropriate response to such a disclosure is, “I’m so sorry. Is there anything I can do for you?” Avoid physical gestures like hugs, as the person may not want to be touched during such an emotional moment. Also, refrain from gasping or expressing shock—this shifts the focus onto your feelings rather than theirs.
The instinctive response might be to inquire, “What happened?” However, it is essential to resist this urge. If they wish to share the details, they will do so in their own time. Do not press for specifics regarding when, where, how, or who was involved. Your role is to provide support and maintain the focus on the individual who has suffered.
If the victim chooses to share details, your sole responsibility is to listen. Acknowledge their words with nods to show you are engaged. It is vital to avoid displaying shock, disbelief, or anger, as these reactions could inadvertently redirect the conversation back to your feelings. Acceptable responses include expressions of sorrow or anger for the victim’s pain, as long as they remain calm and supportive.
Most importantly, never question the credibility of their experience. Phrases like “Are you sure it happened that way?” can severely hinder constructive dialogue about assault. Similarly, comments that imply doubt—such as “Did you say no?” or “Why didn’t you report it?”—can undermine their sense of reality and imply that they deserved the violence they faced. These should be avoided at all costs, as they inflict further harm and may alienate the very person you intend to support.
While engaging in these conversations, it is essential to be aware of your own emotional state, especially if you are a survivor yourself. If you find the discussion triggering, it is perfectly acceptable to excuse yourself. If feelings of panic, nausea, or distress arise, you may need to prioritize self-care. This could mean stepping away from the discussion or seeking professional support. Resources are available, including therapy, which can be invaluable for processing your own experiences.
Sexual assault is a profoundly traumatic event with far-reaching effects. Establishing clear guidelines for discussing these topics is essential as they come into the light, free from the shame that has historically surrounded them. Individuals can only feel safe enough to share their stories if they are met with understanding and compassion.
In summary, when someone is ready to talk about their assault, we must be prepared to listen without judgment, providing a safe space for them to share their truth. This dialogue fosters healing and encourages a supportive community that upholds the dignity of all survivors.
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