Updated: Jan. 29, 2021
Originally Published: Dec. 12, 2016
The excitement that filled our living room during Christmas of 1988 was truly unforgettable. My siblings, ages 9 and 10, could hardly contain themselves as they tore open a large box that held their long-awaited Nintendo gaming system. The upgrade from their old Atari brought them to life, and I vividly remember their joyous screams as my father assisted them in connecting it to the television. As a 13-year-old, I watched them slip into a state of total immersion, clad in pajamas, while I struggled to understand the appeal of these video games. Despite eventually joining in on some marathon sessions of Super Mario Bros., I never fully grasped why they were so captivating. For me, hanging out at the mall was far more enticing than battling space aliens or rescuing Princess Zelda.
Fast forward to today, where I find myself parenting a son who shares that same fervor for video games. Our journey began just before the launch of the Wii when my mother-in-law gifted our then 3-year-old son a toddler-friendly gaming system. With oversized controllers and educational games, it seemed harmless at first. His eyes sparkled with delight as he engaged with the vibrant graphics, and for a few days, his enthusiasm was heartwarming. However, it wasn’t long before we encountered the challenges that come with excessive gaming.
Tantrums erupted when it was time to turn off the console, and his fixation on gaming began to overshadow other activities. We noticed an alarming pattern: he was waking up earlier and staying up later, driven by the desire to play. The more we tried to limit his screen time, the more intense his emotional outbursts became. It was a shocking turn of events, as I had no recollection of my brothers reacting this way to video games. The situation escalated to the point where we felt compelled to establish a strict no-video-game policy in our home for several years.
While this approach provided relief, it also isolated him from peers who bonded over gaming. As he grew older, we decided to reintroduce video games, thinking he could handle it better. Unfortunately, his old behaviors resurfaced, manifesting as emotional instability and an inability to concentrate on schoolwork. We implemented time limits, but this only fueled his obsession. It was heart-wrenching to witness.
Ultimately, we recognized that video games were taking a toll on his mental health. At just 8 years old, he was grappling with highs and lows that were largely contingent on gaming. Once we eliminated video games from our household, we saw a marked improvement. He even admitted that playing made his mind feel “scrambled.” After a few weeks without gaming, he expressed relief at the break, validating our decision to pause.
Now at 13, he and I have worked collaboratively to establish a healthy balance. My husband and I understand that video games are an integral part of teenage life, and we’ve encouraged him to communicate his feelings about gaming. He has learned self-regulation, and while he plays occasionally, he recognizes that life should not revolve solely around screens. If only he could channel that same vigor into household chores!
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In summary, managing a child’s obsession with video games can be challenging, but with careful monitoring and open communication, a balanced approach is possible.
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