“Mommy, what is sex?” my son Liam inquired, fiddling with the tag of his superhero pajamas.
“Well, that’s a complex topic. But we’re running late for school, and you have your special project to finish!” Thank goodness for our perpetual tardiness.
I had anticipated this moment, but I never expected it to occur amidst tooth fairy visits, sewing superhero capes, and reading The Cat in the Hat for the hundredth time.
A quick online search using the phrase “talking to a 5-year-old about sex” informed me that it was crucial to answer his question promptly to foster trust and promote a healthy understanding of sexuality. Apparently, his curiosity was normal, yet my initial plan to avoid this discussion until he was much older was misguided.
As I scoured the internet for guidance, the pressure grew. I envisioned myself as the ideal mother, the kind whose kitchen cabinets stay organized, whose ketchup bottles are always clean, and who tends her garden while perfectly accessorized.
Good mothers, I reminded myself, are always ready to discuss sensitive topics like sex with their children.
When Liam returned from school that day, I prepared a snack of celery sticks with peanut butter and raisins, artfully arranged to resemble “ants on a log,” inspired by a Pinterest post.
We settled at the kitchen table. Taking a deep breath, I mustered a calm expression and began. “Sweetheart, I wanted to revisit your question from this morning.”
“What question? And what’s wrong with your face?” he replied, crunching on his snack.
“About… you know… what you asked me earlier,” I said, hoping he had forgotten.
“Oh, right! My friend Emma said her mommy and daddy did the sex and now she has a baby in her tummy, and her mommy is going to poop it out soon.”
“Please chew with your mouth closed, okay?”
“Okay. I really like this celery, Mommy.”
“It’s pronounced celery.”
“Ceruly.”
“CELL-ER-REE.”
“CE-RUH-LEE.”
“Never mind,” I replied, suppressing the eye twitch that was beginning to surface.
“Do you have a baby in your tummy, Mommy?” he asked, glancing at my waistline, which I had been trying to shrink since 1995.
“No, sweetheart, I don’t.”
“Maybe you should do the sex with Emma’s daddy so you can get one.”
At this point, both eyes were twitching. I took a deep breath. “It doesn’t quite work like that, Liam.”
In reality, it does, but with the way Emma’s dad looks, I doubted that would be a sound choice. Focus, Jenna. “Sex is something that happens when someone loves or really, really likes another person, whether it’s a girl or a boy, or sometimes both.”
“Mom, my friend Josh says you get a baby by kissing and hugging someone really tight,” Liam said, licking peanut butter off his fingers.
“No, sweetheart, that’s not right. Sex is a special experience that involves your body and another person or group of people who feel the same way you do. But remember, it’s not about animals or family members.”
Why didn’t I just make peanut butter and jelly?
“Using protection is important to avoid unpleasant side effects, such as itchiness or having kids.”
Oh dear.
“Mommy? Can I have some more ceruly?”
“Uh, sure.”
“Can I eat it downstairs?”
“Well…”
“Please? I’m bored, and I want to watch TV.”
I was immensely grateful for the fleeting attention span of a 5-year-old. “Yes, of course.”
He jumped up, wrapped his arms around my neck, and exclaimed, “You’re the best mommy ever!”
With a roll of my eyes and a shake of my head, I donned my pearls and prepared to tackle the chaos in the kitchen.
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