Dear Bonus Dad: A Heartfelt Appreciation for Embracing Us as Your Own

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To my stepfather,

I vividly recall the first time you arrived at our home, balancing three pizzas in your hands, fully aware that you were entering a household of teenagers. After all, what teenager could resist pizza? But I was a teenager who was struggling with self-image, hesitant to indulge because I wanted to reclaim my father’s attention, the one who left us without a backward glance.

Your arrival disrupted my plans. I reluctantly took a slice, captivated by its aroma, then retreated to my room, upset with my mom for introducing you into our lives. I understood what this meant—it signaled a new chapter for her, one that required your acceptance of us. It felt like a shift I wasn’t ready for.

You faced the challenge of winning our affection, hearts that had been wounded by abandonment. Trust was a luxury we could not afford, especially when it came to love. We were afraid to hope, fearing disappointment would only deepen our scars.

Yet you showed remarkable courage. Your persistence was evident, with pizzas in hand and a warm smile lighting up your face. You acted as if you genuinely cared about us and believed we could become a family.

When you and Mom tied the knot, I sang at the wedding, still skeptical about the future. But as time went on, our initial dislike transformed into fondness, and that fondness blossomed into love—a love strong enough that I felt honored to have you walk me down the aisle on my special day.

I want to express my gratitude for your unwavering presence. Managing three teenagers in a single-parent household is no small feat, yet you approached it with an admirable blend of strength and selfless love, something I rarely witnessed in any other man, aside from my husband. Thank you for stepping into the role of a father, for showing us our worth, and for choosing to be our dad.

Even though we may not share blood, you are undeniably my father. Sometimes, dads come into our lives at the most unexpected times, helping us when we’re down and lifting us back up. Thank you for deciding we were worth that effort.

There were countless moments you could have walked away—during my rebellious outbursts, when I failed to listen, or even that time I lashed out at you over the dog situation. Yet, through it all, you chose to stay and embrace love.

You were present for the births of my children, telling the same joke repeatedly to elicit laughter, “They look just like Grandpa!” It fills my heart with joy to see how much my kids adore you, wanting to spend time with you and viewing you as their grandfather, not just a step-grandfather. Your love for them mirrors the love you’ve always shown us, weaving us all into the fabric of your heart.

We, too, have welcomed you into our hearts. Though you are a stepfather, my heart acknowledges you simply as “Dad.” I want you to know how much that means to me.

Thank you for being you—accepting us for who we were and who we are today. Thank you for your quirks, your humor, and above all, for your love. Your patience in those early days allowed us to find our way back to love too.

Thank you for shining your light in our lives. Thank you for your son, who feels like a brother to us. Thank you for the love you show our mother, for the love you give us, and for the way you cherish all your grandchildren.

We love you dearly. Happy Father’s Day! Here’s to many more celebrations together.

In Summary

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