Life Is Preparing Us For Each Other: A Letter To My Future Adopted Child

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Dear Future Adopted Child,

Even though I don’t yet know who you are or if you’ve entered this world, I eagerly anticipate the moment we will finally meet. You occupy my thoughts often, and I find myself shedding tears for the time we have yet to share.

What are you experiencing right now? I am currently navigating my early 30s—married to your silly father, advancing in my career, exploring breathtaking mountains, and engaging in all the typical activities of my age. Yet, an increasing emptiness has become palpable within me. Are you merely a glimmer of possibility, waiting to be born? Or are you in a challenging situation, longing for stability, perhaps even finding yourself in the foster care system? Are you safe tonight?

You may not share my biological traits, making it impossible to predict your appearance or personality. You could be a newborn or perhaps a 10-year-old who has faced numerous foster homes. Your features could range from blue eyes and brown skin to red hair or a resemblance to me. You might be waiting in places as diverse as China, Africa, or South America.

I want you to know that regardless of who you are, we are meant to find each other. My life experiences have uniquely prepared me for you.

Over the past decade, I have taught preschool, cultivating an open heart that embraces children when their own parents cannot be there. Each time a child cried from a scraped knee or sought shelter during a storm, I practiced what it means to be a nurturing figure. When former students return, expressing gratitude for fostering their passion for art or writing, I feel a profound sense of fulfillment. I can be your mother, even if you’ve known another mother before me. I won’t harbor jealousy (well, maybe just a little).

I have a vibrant, imaginative spirit that has been eagerly waiting to share life lessons about art, wonder, and kindness. I’ve honed my skills in teaching children how to walk, count, read, and show compassion to others.

I have also worked with foster children—some finding joy, while many struggle with their pasts. Those who were the most difficult to care for were often the ones I loved most, understanding they required additional patience, guidance, and sometimes firmness.

Well-meaning individuals often say, “You will be an amazing mother someday!” And I believe it. It may seem unjust, but this will only enhance our connection. While you face the heartache of not having parents, I grapple with the void of being childless.

I’ve watched friends celebrate new parenthood while you’ve witnessed others holding their mother’s hand at school. Our shared experiences of pain will lead to a deeper appreciation of joy when we finally come together. Every moment of struggle and every skill we cultivate will find meaning the day we meet.

When my former partner welcomed his first child, I recognized that his dream had come true—one I could never fulfill. He understood my sadness and reassured me, “I know you wish to pass on your physical traits. But you will impart what is truly significant; you will pass on your soul and your spirit.” I cling to those words in moments of longing for you, my future son or daughter. I worry about your well-being even now. What challenges are you facing? Will you have the chance to bond with our cherished family pet, Willow, or will she be gone when you arrive? I believe you would adore her, and she would love you in return.

Will you get to meet your great-grandparents? They long to see you and often wonder when you will come into our lives.

While some search for their soulmates, my destiny lies with you. I am meant to be your mother, and I look forward to that day when we can finally embrace. Life is preparing us for this union, and I believe that God is guiding us toward each other.

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In conclusion, our lives are intricately woven together by the experiences we endure, and every challenge prepares us for the joy of our eventual meeting.

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