Updated: May 22, 2016
Originally Published: May 22, 2016
And I saw Sisyphus too, tethered to his eternal struggle, grappling with a colossal boulder, his arms straining, legs pushing, hands wrestling, persistently trying to thrust the rock up the slope. Just as it seemed poised to roll over the edge, the relentless weight would send it crashing back down, forcing him to start anew. Each time, sweat drenching his body, dust swirling around him—such is the essence of relentless effort.
“How’s it going?” is a question I’ve faced countless times. For years, my responses were simple: “fine” or “good,” no matter the truth of my situation. But after the birth of my daughter, those stock answers felt shallow and insincere. Yet, sharing the reality of my struggles with a stranger can feel inappropriate: “My baby is in pain for hours every day, so I go for runs just to escape her cries. However, I’m grateful for the treatments available to us in a developed country. I’m overwhelmed and exhausted but also thankful. Thanks for asking!”
Thus, I settled on a more palatable response: “I can’t complain.”
As a former professional who has chosen to stay home, it might seem I have no grounds for complaints, yet the reality of parenting often feels torturous.
“Mom!” Now, six years and two children later, another baby screams, “Mah, mah, mah.” She’s trying to coax some extra grapes out of me, but the groceries have—once again—disappeared faster than I anticipated. Meanwhile, my six-year-old begins her own tirade. Standing on sore feet, I’m chopping chicken-apple sausage in a pan, stirring brown rice pasta, and turning Brussels sprouts as she wails:
“It’s so unfair! None of the other kids have to do this! Why did you take me to the doctor? Why?! You’re the worst mom ever! If you hadn’t made me go, I wouldn’t have to take this medicine, and I hate it! I hate it, hate it, hate it!”
Her high-pitched complaints echo through the house as my 3-year-old runs laps around the room, dodging overturned chairs in his makeshift obstacle course.
After a few minutes, tears well up in my eyes. I don’t take her criticisms personally, but the frustration spills over, seasoning the sausage with my tears, and I yearn to escape to a faraway place.
The toll of sleepless nights, waiting for bathroom breaks, lingering hunger, constant noise, minor discomfort, and lack of personal space are all common experiences for parents. Together, these challenges can feel overwhelming.
Interestingly, these same tactics—physical discomfort, emotional stress, and the introduction of unexpected chaos—are also utilized in interrogation techniques, as described in the classic manual on criminal interrogation. Interrogators elevate a suspect’s stress and confusion by alternating between camaraderie and censure, much like a sibling rivalry or the drastic mood swings of a toddler.
Is parenting truly as burdensome as Sisyphus’s plight? While it may not equate to the suffering of those fleeing war and oppression, the act of raising children can feel torturous. It’s a struggle that becomes all too familiar for those who have endlessly unloaded the dishwasher only to reload it, unpacked lunch boxes only to repack them, and emptied trash cans just to fill them again—all while managing an emotional rollercoaster each day for years.
Sisyphus’s eternal labor is often seen as a metaphor for tedious, repetitive tasks. However, it is the relentless nature of his task that makes it truly epic. His struggle is not merely hard; it is magnified by its perpetuality.
So, while I may not voice my frustrations as I stand before yet another sink full of dishes, overwhelmed by the chaos, I certainly have valid reasons to feel the pressure.
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Summary:
Parenting is an epic and often exhausting journey, akin to the labor of Sisyphus. The daily struggles, both big and small, can feel overwhelming, yet they are part of the profound experience of raising children. While it may not be torture in the traditional sense, the relentless cycle of parenting tasks can leave one feeling drained and challenged in unexpected ways.
Keyphrase: Parenting as an Epic Journey
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