A few months ago, breastfeeding mothers faced criticism for being on their phones too much during nursing sessions—a phenomenon some have dubbed “brexting,” a term that feels rather uncomfortable. Critics argue that mothers who are distracted by their devices may miss critical bonding moments with their infants and overlook essential feeding cues.
As a lactation consultant and breastfeeding mother, I strongly disagree with such criticisms. Breastfeeding is a significant commitment and can be quite challenging initially. On average, new mothers spend approximately a quarter of their day nursing their babies. So, by implying that a bit of texting during these hours detracts from bonding time, I find that notion unfounded.
While it’s true that some mothers might be excessively preoccupied with their phones while nursing, most of us engage in plenty of loving interactions with our babies—like gazing at them, inhaling that delightful baby scent, or even shedding a tear at their beauty.
Honestly, breastfeeding mothers—indeed, all mothers—should not feel an additional burden of guilt. Nursing can become monotonous, and it’s perfectly normal for moms to seek a bit of distraction during those lengthy sessions. With numerous responsibilities to juggle, what better time to reply to emails or send texts than while nourishing our little ones?
If mothers believe that breastfeeding must be an entirely sacred experience, it may lead to feelings of inadequacy because achieving such a standard is unrealistic. Breastfeeding should seamlessly integrate into the whirlwind of everyday life—not be seen as a chore that requires setting aside special time solely for bonding. Those treasured moments arise organically, but breastfeeding is a natural part of the chaotic journey of parenthood.
Throughout my nursing experience, I’ve done quite a variety of activities while breastfeeding. Here are some real-life scenarios that illustrate how busy mothers like me navigate nursing:
- I’ve breastfed while using the restroom and assisting my older child.
- I’ve managed to wipe noses, clean up messes, and tackle household chores—all while nursing.
- I’ve even nursed while engaging in outdoor activities, like playing mini-golf or grocery shopping.
- I’ve found ways to multitask during bath time, getting ready for the day, and preparing meals, all while tending to a nursing baby.
I don’t share these anecdotes to portray myself as a martyr; I aim to convey that breastfeeding should be a fluid component of our lives. Otherwise, it would be nearly impossible to sustain! New mothers, take heart—you will become more adept at multitasking during nursing sessions with time.
So, when discussions about breastfeeding practices arise (and they undoubtedly will), remember: breastfeeding isn’t about achieving perfection. It’s about adapting to your reality, making choices that suit your lifestyle, and caring for your body and baby. Anyone who suggests otherwise can kindly take a step back.
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Summary
Breastfeeding should not be an exclusive or guilt-inducing experience. Mothers can effectively multitask, engaging in activities like texting while nursing. It’s a natural part of motherhood, allowing for bonding moments amidst the chaos of daily life.
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