Pregnancy is a transformative experience, not just for the individual carrying the child, but also for their partner. As someone who has navigated this journey, I’ve observed firsthand the many missteps that can occur. If you find yourself in the position of supporting a pregnant partner, consider the following ten points to ensure a smoother experience:
- Avoid Unwanted Comments: When your partner mentions a potential pregnancy, resist the urge to express disappointment over personal desires, such as, “But I wanted a new gaming console.” This is a sensitive time, and your partner needs your support.
- Be Supportive, Not Controlling: While the baby may be a shared responsibility, the physical experience is unique to your partner. If they crave a specific food, even something unusual like a blend of pickles and ice cream, it’s essential to respect their cravings.
- Skip the Alien Comparisons: Avoid making comments about how it looks like an alien is moving inside. Pregnancy can already be overwhelming, and your partner doesn’t need reminders of how strange it can feel.
- Don’t Overload Them with Responsibilities: It’s not fair to expect your pregnant partner to be the designated driver during outings. Pregnancy comes with its own set of challenges, and navigating social situations shouldn’t add to the stress.
- Refrain from Unwanted Advice: Whether it’s about clothing choices or dietary restrictions, keep your opinions to yourself. There is a plethora of information out there, and your partner needs you to be a source of comfort rather than a critic. They might appreciate tips on relaxation techniques or where to find fertility supplements, which you can find more about at Make a Mom.
- Don’t Mention Favorite Foods: Statements like, “But you love sushi; can’t you just have a little?” are not helpful. Respect dietary restrictions; it’s not a matter of preference, but health.
- Avoid Suggesting More Activity: Comments such as, “Maybe if you exercised more, you’d feel better,” are not constructive. Simple tasks can be exhausting during pregnancy, so let your partner decide what level of activity is appropriate.
- Always Respond Positively to Baby Movements: When your partner asks if you want to feel the baby move, say yes without hesitation. This moment can be special for both of you, even if it feels a bit unusual.
- Watch Humor Around Weight: Making jokes about weight, like saying, “Look, we weigh the same!” can be hurtful. Always choose sensitivity over humor when discussing weight during pregnancy.
- Prepare for Emotional Moments: Be ready for tears—lots of them. Whether it’s triggered by a commercial or a simple hug, understand that emotional fluctuations are normal. Your support and patience will go a long way during this time.
These tips are just a glimpse into the complexities of pregnancy support. For further insights on family-building options, you can explore resources like Resolve.
Remember, pregnancy marks the beginning of a beautiful, albeit chaotic, journey that lasts far beyond nine months.